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i'm 15, but parents still think of me as a little girl.
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It's really annoying me how my parents seem to think of me as a little girl.
In certain ways they don't - they know that I drink and do drugs and party, they let me stay out as late as I want to and I can go practically anywhere I want, but the way they speak to me is like I'm a little girl.
Also, certain things they do make me think the same thing. For example, the other night, my grandad gave me a lift to the train station, but I had missed the train and my friends had all left. So I was waiting for the next train. My mum called and was like, "Why did your grandad not stay with you? It's late at night and it's dark and cold and you're just a little girl!" I had to remind her that I'm 15.
Then today my dad was passing by the library so I asked him to grab me some books he thought I'd like, and most of them are shallow girly books about kissing aimed at 12-year-olds.
Also today, my mum actually said she still thinks of me as a little girl.
It's really annoying, how can I show them that I'm mature?
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New: you cant expect for someone NOT to assume stuff about you like that when most people dont drink and do drugs "for fun."
Um, being 15 and doing all of those things is probably why your parents are treating you like a little girl. Trust me, once you're past 15, you'd think most 15 year old girls are young. When I was 15, i thought i was so old and mature, that once i grew past that, I say to myself, "what was I thinking?" you're in a rebellious stage right now. Why dont you try talking to your parents about the way you feel? Honestly, if you don't tell them they would never know and they would never stop. Or maybe they are just trying to teach you a lesson not to drink and do drugs at 15. That right there is no where near being mature. Sorry to say. Drugs and alchohol are for people that can't face their problems because they are not "mature" for someone to take on their issues themselves.
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Them being worried about your safety doesn't mean they think you're immature or young.
You'll always be their little girl.
I mean, my parents let me drink aswell, although now that I'm 16 it's legal and I know how to take care of myself, they still ask me to text them once or twice whilst I'm in town.
They want to make sure you're ok. You're not an adult yet, so stop trying to be like one.
By doing doing drugs, drinking and staying out late doesn't make you mature. They let you do those things, but you're considered as mature if you come home at a respectable time, even if you could stay out until 5am, and came home sober.
You should relax about this.
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Look, I'm twenty-four years old, and if I had missed my train late at night in my city, I might ask the person who had driven me to sit with me, or to have a coffee with me, while I waited for the next.
That isn't about mature, that is about safe and sensible. It’s never a BAD thing for a lone young female to request some company when out late at night in a large public place, really. I live in a huge city and I’m very confident in it, but given the chance, I’d almost always take the company late at night. It just makes SENSE.
And really, if they are letting you go out and do those (sort of dumb) things, then they aren't treating you like a little girl, they are just getting confused sometimes.
I constantly forget how old my siblings are. I really do. I'll be talking to them and all of sudden remember 'Oh yeah! You are a teenager now! I still think of you like you are ten-ish.'
That's not because I don't respect them, and it's not cause I don't care. It's because I FORGET. I really do. People, especially adolescents and teens change so damn fast, it’s hard to keep up.
The best thing you can do is talk to your parents. Let them in a bit more. Talk to them about the books you are reading, about the complex issues you are talking about in class and the serious discussions you have with your friends. If you don’t let them in to your mind a bit, and help them see the serious topics you are ready to think about, they are going to assume you are still the fluffy little girl they have always known.
And don't get your panties in a knot when they ask you to take care of yourself. That isn't about 'maturity'. My mom still buys me vitamins, completely ignoring the fact I could get my own! I just thank her for her concern.
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