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I am 16 and my best friend is 15, we have been friends for a long time and she stayed ths night at my house.We both have had sex with our boyfriends before. Well she asked to "eat me out" and i said yes. i liked it,but i like guys and i am not bisexual. so why i did like it?. should i talk to her about it? what should i do?
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Its generally easier for women to be attracted to the same sex than guys. It doesn't mean you are truely bisexual, or that you want to date women.
So why did you enjoy it?
Well, to start with, you're comfy with your friend. Obviously, you're comfy and trusting enough with her that you don't sound like you were overly hesitant about letting her eat you out. I'd almost wonder if you two had done anything else (kissing, touching) before. If so, then you probably DO have some sexual interest in girls. If not, you might still have that interest, but it goes to show you exactly how comfortable you are if the first time you did anything remotely sexual you agreed to let her perform oral on you.
Comfort is required to enjoy sex, be it with the same or the opposite sex. And while lust and love often provide motivators that drive people to sex, and that form the basis for genuine relationships, they are not required to simply be able to enjoy sexual contact. What do you think a fuck buddy is? Its not someone you love, and sometimes its not even someone you lust for, its simply someone that you're comfy enough with to sleep with on a regular basis.
End that with the fact that what she did IS something generally enjoyed by women, and its easy. You were enough at ease that discomfort didn't kill your ability to be aroused, and what was done was arousing. Basic biological reaction.
It seems like you're capable of enjoying sexual activity with women. That doesn't mean you have to relabel yourself, it just means you know a bit more about yourself than you did before.
If you feel the need, talk to her about it. I mean, I'm sure she'd be happy to know you enjoyed it. Beyond that, don't worry too much about what you are. You like guys, so date guys. Beyond that, figure it out as you go along and don't tie yourself to a label.
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You could have some hidden feelings towards women. You're straight, but maybe, just MAYBE you have a side to you that likes women too! It's not a bad thing. There's no need to talk to your friend about it unless you want her to do it again or never do it again. It's natural for women to like oral sex. It doesn't matter whether it's a guy or girl who's performing it on you. It's only your eyes that can tell the difference, not your body's instincts =)
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Just because you liked it doesnt mean that youre automatically bi sexual hon. Your body responded to it in a good way. its nothing to be ashamed of you are still young. I see no need to talk to her about it unless you want to make it a point that you dont want it to happen again, you enjoyed it but want to strictly stay straight.
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