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Pain over my ex starting to come back now that I have a new boyfriend :(
Okay so around August me and my ex boyfriend broke up. He was my first love and after it ended it's taken me a while to get over it. I have never been so hurt in my life. Well now im doing pretty okay without him and I met someone else and now we are dating. He is very cute and sweet and I like him very much. But Now I feel weird about it. I know I am not fully over my ex, I still love him very much but I would never go back with him because too much has changed and I know I should be moving on but im starting to get those feelings I had when we first broke up and now I have my new boyfriend, he doesn't know I feel this way but I find it to be very unfair for him because now I'm having second thoughts of whether or not I should be in a relationship but I also feel I shouldn't be letting my feelings for my ex knowing that nothing is going to happen between us again get in the way of me being with someone else. SO now Im really confused and dont know what to do :(
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WOW YOUR JUST LIKE ME!! you want what you can't have and when you get it well soon you don't want it anymore. But in my experiance what you need to do is just stick with the guy for a while or if that doesn't work dump the guy ands try beeing simple for a while but personally from experiance i more suggest you stick with the guy. Hopeed this helped bye!
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First off this is a perfectly normal way to feel because he was your first love and that takes time to get over. I went through this before and it took me ten months to get completely over him so I completely understand what your going through. Im gonna be real and say love sucks! I just lost my secod live and I still think about my first so i can tell you from personal experience You will get over him but youll still have feelings for him and youll never forget him. Stay with this guy and see where that takes you and if it doesnt work then, hes just a guy and he wasnt worth your time.Hope I helped any! please let me know if you need anymore help!!!
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I know how you're feeling. Do you find yourself comparing your new boyfriend to your ex? Jeez, I can remember how many times I did that and how exhausting it was! You seem to be very mature about the situation though, and it's thoughtful to be worried that your being unfair to your new bf. You should just take a break from everything, sit back and really think. Do you truly like this new guy? Does he treat you better than your ex? Is he just a rebound? Maybe you're feeling a little guilty that you're actually happy again! That happens too. If you know that you don't want to ever get back with your ex, and you've stopped contact with your ex (i hope you have! that just makes it worse) then you should put all your energy toward this new guy. You might even be unconciously making yourself feel this way because your scared of getting hurt again. It's like your heart's defense mechanism.
The bottom line is, if you like this new guy and he's making you feel great and you're happy, dive in and go for it. Don't go to places that remind you of your ex and don't talk about your ex to your new bf. Show this new guy that you're strong and happy, and let him have a chance! He sounds like a good guy.
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