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f/17 okay so i was at a party the other night and i got completley wasted i dnt remember anything and theres a rumor going around that i slept w/ 4 guys but thats not me iv worked very hard to keep my reputation up i dnt no what to do or say i mean personally i think it should be counted as rape or something!!
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This is a pretty easy one:
Ask each guy if you two did something--anything--together at the party you both attended.
If you're unsure of who the guys are then ASK AROUND! If everyone already believes you've had drunken sex with four guys then most of them, if not all, know the names of the guys too.
Getting extremely wasted when you're 17 (or 21 or 35 or 80) and expecting good results is not very responsible.
If you were so very, very drunk that you cannot recall getting to the point of sex then how do you know you weren't all flirty with the guy(s)? If the guy was drinking too then maybe he thought you genuinely wanted to "be" with him. If he was drinking too then maybe he misinterpreted a few drunken giggles as heavy flirting signs.
This being said, you may have NOT been taken advantage of. Your best bet on this is to talk to the guy that may or may not have taken advantage of you. He may seriously have thought you wanted to have sex with him because he was also under the influence. Remember we do not make good judgment when drunken. He could be just as "innocent" or "guilty" as you are. Do not label this as "being taken advantage of" until you find out (from the guy or guys) if he had been drinking or not. Remember also that one beer can get some people drunken so the amount is not really a concern of yours.
So, that being said, you need to stop labeling this as "taken advantage of" and start labeling as "made very poor choices." Putting the blame onto someone else when you don't even know the ENTIRE story is not very nice. It's just fine to take the blame and admit to making some bad calls while under the influence. Everyone knows alcohol makes things seems smaller than what they are until you sober up and realize that those very things are huge.
Next, you need to stop drinking. Getting "completely wasted" is not a good sign. Getting a little tipsy at a party is alright but going as far as to not recall the party is overboard for any age. You are putting yourself in very bad situations, especially when everyone around you is also drinking/drunken. It sounds like you're not making good choices so you really do need to cut alcohol out of your life until you mature a bit more. This screams of getting worse in a short period of time.
Ask the guys what their stories are about what happened and go from there. Your reputation may be tainted for now but if you learn to behave better then I'm sure things will clear back up and you'll get some of your dignity back.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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Why should it be counted as rape? If it did happen, you could have consented for all you know.
Find out who the supposed guys are and go from there. I'm sure you'll find out the truth. and to be perfectly honest, I think you'd remember at least a little bit if you slept with 4 guys..
People might be joking.
but in future..
If you don't want things like this to happen again, don't get so wasted.
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Well that might not be true what people are saying because they are just trying to worrry you and spread rumors.. and it wouldnt be a rape because you dont know what happened and you were drunk but i dont think its true...
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well you cannot accouse whoever you slept with of rape, since you cant even remember what happend yourself.
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