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I am so confused about my boyfriend...
14/f
Okay, this might be kind of long. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 months now and he's my first boyfriend. For the first few months everything was honestly perfect. I was so happy to talk to him and see him(we talked every day on the phone but we rarely saw each other because we both babysat little siblings)Overall, the summer was great. There were times that I would get bored talking to him but that's to be expected after talking for a few hours a day. Then school started and things changed. We were both starting HS. I was so excited; I loved HS. I made new friends, I'm in all top classes and I'm doing well, and I joined Amnesty International and Key Club. Everything was great but my bf wasn't in any of my classes so I don't see him except for 10 minutes before homeroom. When I did, however, things were different. He was with all of his friends(who I think are obnoxious but I don't complain)and I end up standing there ignored. He acts like a jerk with his friends and is just as loud and obnoxious as them. I'd never seen that in him before. When he did acknoledge me he'd try to hug or kiss me or he'd say something stupid to impress his friends. When i talked to him about it and how I didn't want to kiss in school he accepted it but he still acted kind of hurt. Once a few weeks ago he said, "You know you haven't been hugging me a lot lately" I just said sry that I'd been late the past couple of mornings and I hadn't gotten a chance. Then he said "It's okay its just making me look bad." When I asked him he basically told me that his friends tease him that I don't kiss him and that part of the reason he hugs me in the morning is because of his friends. I was so hurt.
Also, sometimes he embarrasses me. I know that sounds horrible, but sometimes he just acts like a little kid and I feel wierd especially when I'm with my two best friends and their bfs and he acts stupid and is kind of immature. I feel mean saying it but its the truth.
To make matters worse, through all of this I've started noticing another boy more. He's in a bunch of my classes and he's so perfect. He's really nice, talks to me, he's really smart, and he's probably the most good-looking guy I know(he's not even conceited about it either) I always feel awful just thinking about him becasue I know it's so unfair to my boyfriend but I can't help it especially when my bf does something that makes me mad. Also, sometimes I miss being single because for the first time in my life I'm being outgoing and guys are talking to me and noticing me and I can't even think consider them because I have a bf.
I've considered breaking up with him a few times but I don't know what to do. I know he really cares about me he always tells me how much he loves me and how I'm the only good thing in his life. And I really love talking to him on the phone(we still talk every night) For the most part, we have fun conversations and he can always make me laugh. But it feels like our phone conversations are the only good thing in our relationship. I don't get butterflies when I see him anymore, ever. To be honest, I don't even like really seeing him in person lately. I know for a fact that we'll never get married because our visions for the future just wouldn't mix. I want to travel the world and help people then settle down with kids. He doesn't know what he wants to do but he doesn't even think he wants kids. I'm just so confused and stressed about all of this. Please help me.
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I had a similar situation however everytime I tried to break up with him he would get really upset and say stuff like he can't live without me, etc etc. each time i went back with him and after a few more years we broke up. looking back now, i wish i had been able to break up with him right from the beginning. i think i was just feeling like he's a good friend and i didn't want him to be mad at me, so i stayed. i think this was a big mistake. now i feel like i missed out on some stuff. even if this new guy doesn't like you back, there's gonna be lots of other ones that are going to make your heart flutter. i'm sure you'll date plenty of other guys and if you know you aren't going to get married then i'd say don't waste your time. i don't really think he's treating you very well either (you not wanting to see him in person is a very bad sign too).
i would break up with him. it's going to be hard, he's going to be upset, he might even kinda be a prick to you at school afterwards but that should just reaffirm that the guy wasn't right for you anyways and you shouldn't waste your time.
one other word of advise, if you break up with this man and then really start liking this other guy and he ends up not liking you back, please don't go back out with your current boyfriend (feelings of rejection can cause you to do some silly stuff) - just remember he's not the one for you either.
hope that helps.
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okay so i was kinda stuck in the same problem as you were except my boyfriend for was immiture and obsessed. i had to break it off with him. so i suggest you break it off with your boyfriend, esepecially if he acts like a big jerk just to try to impress his friends. you dont need a guy like that in your life. tell him how you feel. tell him yall are better off beinq friends it maybe hard but in the end it'll be worth it. esepecially if you dont want to be with him anymore. if he tries to tell you he'll chanqe then give him another chance if you want but if you dont kick him to the curb. i know this may seem mean but its life. and if you dont want him no more you dont have to have him.
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Okay,
Usually when people enter High School everything changes exspecially when you have never been to High School before. There is alot more peer pressure, stress, and judgement going around. I think your boyfriend might be trying to make a good impression on his friends by acting cold towards you to make himself look good. Honestly, In my opinion thats wrong. If he really cared about you he wouldn't brush you off and most of all he would never ignore you. If he apprechiates you then he should have nothing to hide. If you like another guy there is nothing wrong with that try talking to him, Get to know him and devolope a friendship as he could be a great guy will alot to give.
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