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pregnant but dont want the daddy
Hi, ok so i am a 20 year old female, and i just found out im pregnant. i know who the father is. we have been together going on 3 months. i used to love him but dont really love him anymore. we have many issues and just dont seem to work very well anymore. he loves me to death, and i know he does. he wants to be with me and spend his life with me.. but i dont.. and the issue is.. so im pregnant now. but i dont want to stay with him. he wants to move in together.. be there for me and be the father... be involved in everything. and i have no problem with him being involved.. but i dont want to live with him or be with him.. and i dont know how to tell him. i have tried but he doesnt listen.. and there is more.. and bigger issues.... im not from here (the usa) i am from mexico. i always had plans to go back home (mexico) but things always came up and so i wasnt able to go home. and now im pregnant. but i dont want to stay here.. i want to go back home and be with my family and friends..but its so wrong leaving.. because he is the father and he has a right to be in this babies life.. but i dont want to stay in the USA.. and there isnt a way for him to go to mexico.. he says he can.. but i dont want him living with me at my house.. he doesnt speak spansh so wont be able to work... so no way to pay for all his expenses for him and for our child.. i dont know what to do... =/ if i stay here im leaving my family and friends and my life.. and not going to be happy at all.. i dislike it here so much and dont want to be here.. but if i go home (mexico) im taking him away from his child which is wrong so much... i have no idea what to do.... =(
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first off if mexicans can come here and not know a lick of english and get by he can get along great there. also just sit him down and hi you have to holler as loud as you can let him know your serious but let him know you want him involved.you say you dont love him but you know you will always care about him besides you cant love someone for 3 months thats a crush or just caring.
but either way its your decision we cant make your mind up for you we can just help you along
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i think you should just try to talk to him and try to tell how you feel about this
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Hi,
I am sympathetic to your situation and I feel for you. You have to have a heart to heart with him and tell him the truth. You have to make him understand how you feel and why you feel that way. Tell him the same thing you wrote in your letter.
There are plenty of ways for him to stay in your child's life. You can work anything out if you want it bad enough.
The only thing I'm not sure of is his rights to visitation if you leave the U.S. Things could get tricky. Make sure you check into that.
If you don't do what makes you happy, you are going to regret it and make yourself miserable. You have to think about your child as well. I hope this helped you.
I wish you good luck,
Ediemarie
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