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getting over it?
okay so like im usually like insanely comfortable with guys. like i can kiss them and hook up and whatever but like its weird when it comes to like anything more. im usually up for anything, like i always feel fine saying ill do stuff with a guy and ill be so comfortable with him and totally game for doing stuff but then literally at the last second i stop him and i dont know why. like i always get mad at myself for not letting it happen. how do like i get over that?
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Since one can get a sexually transmitted
disease from any number of "sex acts" short
of getting laid, they are still considered sex
by the majority.
I know teens and Bill Clinton
would like to THINK otherwise so they feel
pure and innocent, but if you are of an age
to do these things, you should be old
enough to face the reality of what you're
doing. I'm not even saying these things are
wrong, just that being honest about it is
an important step toward maturity.
That being said, you are not ready. I know
you want to do these things but something
is telling you no. Listen to that something.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to wait
until you are REALLY ready for it. Its
an intimate act that means more than just
a kiss. You don't do it with just any guy.
It means if a break up comes along one day,
you get hurt more. You're more intimately
involved after all.
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Oi.
That little voice, that last second feeling of "NO"
Thats called common sense. And the knowledge that you're being stupid. Thats that little corner of your brain trying to stop you from being a complete idiot.
Just because you're comfy with touching and being touched doesn't mean you should be indiscriminately indulging. You don't need to get over it, you need to start dating and stop trying to get laid.
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Then perhaps you should say so instead of using euphamisms like "Hooking up" and "anything more"
Hooking up begain as a collegiate expression meaning a one night stand. Then teens adopted it and it doesn't really have a meaning any more, its used to cover anything you don't want to talk about.
Regardless, the voice is still common sense telling you not to be stupid. Sex vs fingering is an argument of degree. And regardless of you having a boyfriend, you talk about "guys" so it sounds like he's one boyfriend of many and still like you are somewhat indiscriminate.
So, be clear next time, though regardless of how many guys there have been, you aren't ready and need to listen to yourself more.
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I don't think you can just get over something like that. It takes time. Your mind and body are mentally and subconsiously sending you signals to halt your sexual experiences because it's a big step and maybe you just aren't ready yet like you want to be and feel you are. When it happens it'll happen and it'll be the right time then, just not when you're trying to do it with whoever. Maybe it's also because you're saying its with "various guys" and if you were with someone you trusted and cared about then you'd have an easier time letting loose on such a big thing. You shouldn't trust just any guy you know with something like this, because you are putting a whole heckload of trust into them by letting sex happen, and sometimes they take it wrong and it makes you sound like a bad person.
Be careful. Good luck.
And don't feel the need to rush into anything!
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hmmm... well you see sumthin inside tells yu tht yu r nt ready...
yu shudnt push urself too much
dnt go 4 it strait away
first just strip in frnt of da guy n thn perhaps...
nyways i m redy to be da hamster
devilz_venom@hotmail.com
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