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what was i supposed to say?
f 17
my boyfriend and i went to a local concert and had a lot of fun, it was a really wonderful night.
he got a ride home with his friend and i drove myself home.
a few minutes after i got home he called me to tell me that his friend thought it would be funny to punch the gas while he was getting out of the car, so basically he fell and got his leg run over by one of the wheels and he says he has a purple gash on his leg now.
naturally i started freaking out, i mean he called me to tell me this and it sounds really serious. he said he could walk on it fine so i know it isn't broken. i started looking up how to treat leg wounds and asking him questions about it with legitimate genuine concern, and he keeps being like "relax chill it's ok it's not a big deal i'm fine it's gonna fine"
after a good 15 minutes of this back and fourth kind of talk i got really frustrated and upset so i was like "ugh. i have to go. bye." and he was like "oh, ok, bye"
but i'm still genuinely perturbed, this whole him not worrying thing happens all too frequently, but only with his own well-being. he worries about me a lot, but he never puts enough logical consideration into himself.
...am i just being a typical woman at this point? am i nagging? am i overreacting?
this specific incident aside, how can i influence him to take better care of himself, or at least take my worrying somewhat seriously? he doesn't eat much and when he does it isn't healthy, he's 17 and still hasn't gotten his driving permit, and he's been wearing just a thin sweatshirt jacket when it's genuinely freezing outside.
....am i just acting like his mom? how can i get him to take my concerns seriously and actually do something about them?
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I hate to say it, but you are acting a little like his mother. Maybe you are treating him the way you think you would like someone to treat you, but after a while you would get sick of it, too. It is almost as if you are saying to him, "Hey, stupid...put a coat on...eat this....why don't you have a driving permit...why are you so irresponsable..." You think you are showing love, but it might be coming across differently to him. Spend one whole day only commenting on the things you think he's doing right. It will be good for the both of you.
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You're freaking out a bit too much. My girl does the same thing. She'll freak out when I havent eaten in a day or so and I'm genuinely not hungry. She'll worry when I get hurt and its not that bad. The other day I jumped into bed and slammed my head up against the wall where a headboard would be if we had one. It didn't even really hurt that badly, but she was freaking out. I used to play football, and it takes alot more than that to hurt me so far as head injuries go.
I think you should explain yourself to him so he understands what happened. Talk to him about it.
But yes, you're being a relatively typical girl, and you don't need to be getting upset over it. Concern is fine, fighting about it is not. Nothing you've mentioned is a huge concern.
Try to work on expressing yourself without freaking out and trusting your boyfriend a bit more.
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You sound like all your trying to do is be considerate and thoughtful. You aren't nagging, you are just worried about your boyfriend, his health and his saftey. I would talk to him about all this and tell him he isn't caring enough about hiself and he needs to be better at that. He will listen to you because you care about him and he knows that. So, just have a talk with him and see how it goes. Good luck! Hope this helps!
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I think your actinf like a caring girlfriend. Talk to him and really let him know that you are worried about him and that the only reason why you are nagging at him is because you really care about him.. Good luck and much love!
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