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BJ and HJ first time
16/f
** sorry this might be a little graphic **
my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 6 months now and we are going pretty good. actually very good. We have been talking about doing some sexual things, but not sex. because we are both not ready and both want to wait. He is the first guy for me to do anything with and i am the first girl he has done anything with. my problem is that I am not a very sexually active girl... I dont like wearing tampons or fingering myself. so basically i'm not very comfortable sticking something "up there". (i have not told him this because i think it is too embarassing) there was a couple of times when i let him "finger" me but it was only like his finger pad. so one of my questions is.... how do i get more comfortable with something "up there"??? another thing is that i have touched his dick and it was my first time and it was really weird. I didn't see anything because his pants were on, but it felt weird. I need advice on like how to give a hj and how to give a bj. and also just some supportive guidance on all of this "first time" stuff.
PLEASE no links. and in case you have forgotten, we dont want to have sex so please no tips or advice on sex. just the other stuff.
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH!!!!
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We aren't supposed to be giving information
on how to do sex acts on the site. Its always
a better idea to learn those things with the
significant other.
We can however let you know that you still
need to protect yourself. Use condoms because
you can still get an STD from oral sex. Yes,
oral sex and hand jobs are still considered
sex to most of the population. If there is
a penis and/or a vagina involved it is sex.
Just relax and don't worry about being an
expert. You'll learn with practice.
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okay i just recently went through like a month ago this is what i did and it helped me ease into the whole situation this and what you gotta do for the whole fingering part is just relax and let him do his thing your not going to ever get truly conferable with anything "up there" if you think about it to much...just catch the flow...and it helps a lot if he kisses you cuz then your mind isn't really to much on whats going on in the "down there" area
as for the hand job here's what i did and it worked...obviously you have to get him hard... but it would be easier to do it if you know exactly what he wants...so grab his hand in yours and whisper in his ear[just for sexiness]"show me how you like it"...so you can get the flow and how to do it [how he likes it to be held]and then once you feel the rhythm move his hand and just imitate what he was doing...
for the bj...well basically its all tongue and lip you gotta be supper careful...what you could do is when you start start of holding it like if you were going to give him a hj then with tip of your tongue trace the head and then again with the tip of your tongue go down the side of his dick...that's kinda to ease you into how it feels...and it feels good to him...then lick your lips... and cover your teeth with them put the head in first and move your tongue around kind like with a lollipop
then just slowly push it it to your mouth as far as is conferable for you...and just do the in and out motion...and you can combine the hj and bj as you go up and down with your mouth and moving your tongue you can move your hand up and down as well yea then weather he comes in your mouth is totally up to you...but make sure to tell him ahead of time weather you want him to or not...also tell him you want to take it slow because some guys like to move your head and they get a little to rough for the first time...
GOOD LUCK
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Well, It might hurt, first time in fingering, and sex. But if you want to ease the pain then you have to finger yourself. I do respect that you are not that sexually active person. And first time touching a dick is always weird.
First time will always hurt. If you wont prepare yourself with fingering yourself. I would try at least do it yourself a couple of time, and then let your boyfriend try it. And that should ease the pain in first time.
I'm not sure how you can get comfortable sticking something "up there". Just get used to it ;)
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