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Finding a Place to call home
Hey, I am 16f and I am not feeling very happy lately,or at all. I am just so frustrated. My 'used to be friend" totally ruined our friendship since she used me to get to my brother,months ago. I cannot stand seeing her EVERY single night when she comes to suck faces with him and be a hooker for him. Its like I have this hole within me,in my heart,that just fills with hatred when my "friend" comes into the house. I can't stand to look at her since she lyed to me,backstabbed me,has my whole family on her side,and used me. No one understands that what she did is basically unforgivable. And I can't stop thinking about it since the problems live in my house. I just want to get away from this all, move somewhere decent, run away or something. Every day that I am in this house it brings me down. Just this week my mom sent my sister to my grandmas,and since my sister is the major baby of the family,even though she is ten, my mom thought that since my sis isnt here she doesnt have to be (Its the main reason she ever stays home). So she left for a whole couple days, when I thought this would finally be a perfect time to gain some alone time with her. I dont think she realizes that she has another child that needs care at times. Maybe it has to do with me being the middle child. It is true that the middle child gets left out.
She asked me to watch a movie with her, we got it started and everything, then just as it began the phone rang, she just got up and left.I was like 'wow,some quality time'. She didnt pause the movie like she even wanted to watch it with me, and she never came back. I thought if i was my 'so called friend' or my sister she would never do that to 'me'. She doesnt understand how I feel so put-aside. When I try to tell her,she says I dont get it,and that we can do it someother time,but there is no other times,and there usually never will be, since she is always doing 'something'. I feel I should just move out. As far as my dum ass brother (who already graduated) and his slut (whos in my grade, 11) live here, I won't find peace. I keep saying I will move out before he ever does, hes probly gonna be a stay at home son till he's 21. I want to move out NOW. I know a few places I can go already. Do you think I should wait another century, or is it even worth waiting?
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to tell you the truth,your parents love you anyway,and they love you a lot though they don't show it and since that's the truth,you have no reason to worry on that count.remember,everyone has their own path to take in life,its their life ,they have freedom and they choose to spend it the way they do.so let them all be.concentrate on feeling good and tell yourself that you are a super person,and be busy doing your routine or things that you like to do.don't move out,according to me,even though every one can be so annoying.parents love all their children but show more to the youngest child,as usual.they don't know that you feel this way and they think that as long as you are doing fine,its not a problem.don't feel left out anymore,and know that they do love you,okay?be yourself,be happy and positive,stay nice and always be the sweet girl you already are.just lead your life,study,have fun with friends etc.Ignore people who annoy you ,like your brother's GF,[who used to be ur friend]u dont have anything to do with her anyway.its his life,let him beand let them be.enjoy your life ,basically,since you have your freedom and its your life.good luck!
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Well im not a middle child or anything. So I dont really know anything about that. But what i would do is get out of the house more. Go hang out with some friends. Make new ones. Or even invite friends over. A lot of times, ask your mom if she wants to do something with you. It will bring you guys closer together. And I think you should really wait a little bit before moving out. At least until your out of school.
good luck :)
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My opinion is wait and try to solve this. It will be hard and I know you've tried. You have other friends right? Invite them over so you can hang out or even go over to their house. If you don't want to see your ex friend when she comes over it would be better if you call your friends, hang out, or go out somewhere. You can go hang out at your friends house, movies, mall, ect. And its more fun with friends so bring some along. And you can also go out with your mom on a day when she isn't busy. So the some time she might be busy talk to her and ask her if she wants to go out shopping or something to spend time together. I am a middle child too and it isn't easy. We both know that. But you and your mom need to put effort into this. So try talking to her about spending time together on another day. And until then spend some time with friends. I really hoped this helped and good luck!
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