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being outgoing, meeting new people
alright so im eighteen years old. female.
well i've always been an inbetween girl if thats what you want to call it. i'm not the shy one, but i'm also not the very outgoing on either. i go out and do things with my friends. but i don't really like going to like a party with a friend if i'm not going to know anyone. i hate being like this! one of my best friends is the complete opposite. she will go anywhere and do whatever even if she is not going to know anyone. i wish i was like that! but i know if i went somewhere, i would just sit there awkwardly not saying anything and i hate putting myself in a position like that. is there any way that i could be more open to meeting new people? it's not that i dont like meeting new people, i'm just not a very outgoing person around people i don't know.
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okay so i think that nothing is wrong with a non outing girl..i mean you are outing but u dnt like going out with people who you dont know..its normal..really..you cant just go out with anyone:S
by the way!my case is similar toyou and some of my friends think that im close minded because of that but i dont know:S
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I am the same way. Honestly there isn't anything wrong with that. If you go with your friends hang around with them and have them introduce you to different people. Eventually you guys will start talking. Just talk, you can talk about random things, its not that hard. Just don't go off too random haha. If worst comes to worst then you can talk about weather. Its not that bad of a topic. You could be like, "Oh its been so cold" or whatever. That should get you somewhere. So when you go to a party with your friend go around with her and talk to people. So I hope this helped a little and good luck!
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My question for you is why aren't you happy with the way you are? There is nothing wrong with being an "inbetween girl." Go out and have a good time with people that you know. They will introduce you to new people, so it's not like your social life is stagnant. I am very similar, although being almost done with college, I am probably a bit more of a homebody than you because I am getting ready to move on to the next stage in my life and don't have time to make new friends.
If you really want to try to go out on a limb, what I did was join a club. I knew almost no one going into college, so I joined the equestrian team, as horses are my passion in life, so I knew that somebody there would share my passion. I was required to show up to meetings and events, so eventually I started talking to people and making friends.
Figure out what you like, and join a club and take a class, and eventually you will talk to the people you are naturally attracted to and who are attracted to you. Don't feel like you have to dazzle every new person you meet. You'll find friends naturally.
Good luck and much love!
~TD
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