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Why do I become distant?
If I become closer with a guy, and our relationship might be more than just a friendship, without thinking about it, I become quite distant from the guy.
It also happens when I'm not sure if the guy is interested or not, but we're being flirty with each other.
Why does this happen?
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You become distant as a defence. You don't want to mess things up with them. It is totally unconsious. If it's really bugging you, try to prevent yourself from becoming so distant by talking to them a little more. Just don't become clingy.
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This happens to me all the time, don't worry, I know what you're talking about. It happened in my past relationship, and I think it's because you don't want to do anything to make that person not like you, and you get so consumed in trying to be perfect for them that your first instinct is to keep your distance because you don't want them to look at you and be like ... "why do I even like her?" yuh know? It could also be because you get nervous at the thought of commitment or the unkown aspects of peoples feelings or even your own. You just have to force yourself to get over your fear, I didn't even know I was doing this until afterwards and I'm just like, wow why didnt I notice this before? but you have to take baby steps and work towards not slinking away from a guy who likes you or may like you. You have to always talk to him and try your hardest to not become distant. Don't run away from something that could turn out to be so great, trust me, I would know, and in the end, you will regret it. If you need anything else, just message me, I know ALOT about this feeling. no worries. :] good luckk ! xxo
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