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Why do I constantly use women in order to feel better about myself?
First off, I'm 26, and been single for about 5 years. I have great friends, most of them females all of which I trust with my life. I care for these females, I know, deeply so why do I continue to hurt them emotionally. To keep it short, I use women. I don't like doing it but for some reason I just can't stop. These women are really good friends with me and I've been there for them when ever they needed me. They take good care of me and vise versa. I've become emotionally attached to everyone of them, 6 to be exact. Every time I try to reduce the relationship to just being friends it never works, we always windup back sleeping together. My friends tell me that I'm living the dream. I call a girl up and she's willing to do whatever for me. But I get tired of it and want to be left alone. I like solitude and at the same time I love the attention these women give me. But the attention gets to a level where I begin to get irritated and I snap for no reason at the smallest thing they do wrong. Now, I don't hit women and never will, but for some reason I constantly abuse them mentally. I hate myself for doing it, but why do I continue to do it, I don't know. It's killing on the inside and I don't know how to stop it. I've tried talking to the females I mess around with, but they just keep coming back to me. I don't want to just move away and loose them forever, but I don't want to keep hurting them the way I do. I need help, why do I continue hurt these women the way I do. My life growing up was great and It's great now. I have my own car, apartment, and a good job, but for some reason I still have an emptiness in my life that just can't be filled. There's no reason for me to be doing this. So why do I continue to mentally abuse the women I sleep with, why?
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If you want to stop, you are going to have to stop. It hurts them and you know it. I know you don't want to lose them but if you love them enough, you would. You are hurting them and you don't want to but yet you still do. Probably because you get something you want from it. I think you shouldn't sleep with them anymore. If they keep coming back to you and you keep letting them, of course they are not going to stop. You need to let them know that you don't want to do this anymore. You aren't letting yourself know that you for sure want to stop. You know you need to, and that's good. But just knowing it isn't going to stop it. So I suggest you stop and let these women know that your done with all that. Good luck.
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Hi,
I think that it is at least good that you are admitting that you have a problem. The first thing would suggest is that you go cold turkey. I know that it's easier said than done, but you have to be the one to make the first step, obviously they never will.
Some people say that you are attracted to who you are. I think this is the case with you. They are not going to leave you because they are just like you and probably have the same insecurity issues that you have.
The reason you are abusing them is because you are getting something from it. It is making you feel good in some way. If it weren't, you wouldn't be doing it. That's what you need to figure out for yourself. If you care about these women the way you say you do, you will not want to hurt them in this way.
You should take a break and be alone for a while. Take some time to make yourself happy. Whether you want to believe it or not, you are not happy inside. Once you are, you will treat them better. I hope this helped.
Good luck to you and your special friends,
Ediemarie
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