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Is she worth the time?
I have a friend who I've never met - we're pen pals - but whom I used to talk to on the phone at least once a day. About five months ago she lost her temper with me for a very stupid reason and started calling me names online, on various blog sites. I asked her stop, she would for a day or two and then start back up again. She goes through this period of "I'm sorry" and I want to believe her, so I give her another chance, but then the name calling starts up again. She's done this four times now. All attempts of reasoning with her have failed. As have all attempts to let her know it's not fair to me to call me names, apologize and get mad that I can't forget the things she's said about me. It's always my fault - I'm not around enough, I don't call her, etc. And by the way, she's 25 and I'm 27, if that makes a difference; which I know, it shouldn't.
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Dear Pen Pal,
The true meaning of friendship is one that you can fight and forgive one another. But a true friend will never take that fight to the public. It seems you get caught up in looking at yourself and wondering what causes these moods with her when you should evaluate and try to find out what is going on with her. If you don't you will continue being a punching bag instead of a support system.
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I don't think she is. If she just did it once, and after you asked her to stop, she did, then maybe she would be. Sounds like she has some issues.
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If you guys are in a relation ship where your going out then this isn't okay. If your just pen pals, why are you putting up with this? My suggestion is that this isn't going to stop. Why are you wasting your time with a perosn you don't even know. End this. If you want to give me more detail I can give you a better answer.
hope i helped
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