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friends ex
okay this isnt about me dating my friends ex or anything, i have no interest in that at all.
okay im 17/f to start off with. well i used to be best friends with this girl, we're still good friends but we just dont hang out like we used to. she met this guy over the summer, and through a series of events, they started dating. they were the perfect couple. and everytime i was with her, he was there, and i got to know him and hes really fun to hang out with. well just recently, they have fought a lot, and eventually they broke up permanently. now its really awkward when i text him, because i dont want her to get the wrong idea, that i like him or something. he is just a cool friend and he always listens if i have a problem. i kinda miss hanging out with them, and i want to again, but i dont think that will happen because they fight alot and stuff. i feel like i cant hang out with him either, because then she'll think i like him or something(if i was in her position and she started hanging out with him, i would feel the same way, you know?) so i never really see him at school, and hes a cool kid so i dont wanna lose him as a friend. i tried to get them back together, but mission failed. i really dont want her to think im sneaking around her back, because i dont mean anything by it. i just want us all to be good friends again, what do i do?
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stop telling us that this is how you feel, talk to the both of them! tell her that he's a good friend of yours, just as much as she is. she can't expect you to totally forget about him after how close you guys all got while they were together. see how she feels. she can't say you're "sneaking around" if you're not even sneaking. just let her know that you want to still hang out with him and he helps you out a lot. ask her if she'd like to join in, but just as friends. talk to him about it to. see if you can get them to set their differences aside for a few playdates. it shouldn't be that big of a deal. if they havent tied up loose ends, thats their problem. your friendships shouldnt suffer because they can't figure out what their problem is. you need to make her see that he's a good friend of yours, and you can't just start ignoring him and kick him out of your life because she doesn't like him anymore. if she's a good friend, she will understand. just tell her to let you know if she starts feeling jealous or hurt because of what you are doing, and take it back a step. work it out! good luck.
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