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I dont know what she thinks!!
Ok so im 20/f. I still have feelings for my ex. We broke up like 2 yrs ago and I have a new gf who Ive been with for a while and she has a new gf. We are all friends and everything but for some reason I still have this crush on my ex.
The other day I confessed it to her. I told her about my crush and my feelings for her and everything and we really havent talked since then bc I told her on aim and right after i told her i had to go bc I was at work. I tried msgin her yesterday but she was at work and kinda givin like one word answers so I didnt wanna bother her. I kinda wanna msg her today but like I never used to msg her before i told her so I dont wanna liek weird her out or anything. But I kinda wanna know what she thinks. im not tryin to be with her or anything thats not why I told her. I told her just to get it off my chest basically. I just dont know what I should do and if I do message her I dont know what to say. And I dont wanna be annoying or anything. Any advice??
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If you feel this strongly for her still than you MUST make the first move. Don't wait around for her to make it, because she probably never will. You have to do it. Obviously, you shouldn't talk to her via phone, texting, or e-mail but more face to face. This is because by you talking to her via phone, she's not going to take your conversations too seriously. So confront her, this way she can see your sincerity and emotion, she'll take the conversation more serious, and will actually give you full sentences rather than one word answers. You two need to really have a nice long talk, over a hot beverage, maybe at a caf'e... Talk it out, trust me, if she feels the same than you will see it on her face and through her emotion. If not, and she rejects you than it may be time to move on and find someone who you know will love you through thick and thin. There is no use on loving someone who doesn't love you and has moved on
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I think you need to take a deep breath and ask yourself WHY you are so desperate to know what she thinks.
Why does her opinion matter?
What are you trying to achieve with this?
If you were truly just trying to 'get this off your chest'. Well then, now you should stop talking to her. It shouldn't matter what she thinks or feels now if you are truly not trying to get with her. It's off your chest. Move on.
She doesn't OWE you any response.
In fact, silience might be the kindest response she has.
Stop digging for drama. You did what you felt you needed too. It shouldn't matter what she thinks if this was truly just about you being honest. Move on. She'll tell you what she thinks IF, and only if, she feels a similar need too. If she doesn't, you ought to respect that.
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honestly if you don't find out youll never know. So yeah you should talk to her today, try one more time, say is this a good time and if she says no then let come to you but if she says yeah, try it one more time and see what happens.
Good luck, I hope everything works out for you :)
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