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Im in a sad sad situation...
well,..i spent some time with my ex-boyfriend on saturday..*sighs* well he just up & left me last year without warning& moved in with his wife& kid in las vegas(they were separated for the 5 years we were together)..well, it was very hard for me..well I didn't know how to act around him i was very nervous and didn't know how to act like myself..he stepped outside twisce while i was with him this weekend to call his wife and that just made me feel really bad, bad for her and bad for me.You must know that i was with him for 5 years, he was still technically married but they lived in separate states and he never wore his wedding ring. Now with all that has happend i still have this glimmer of hope. I still love him soo much and now i feel horrible in side..kind of like empty and what the hell is wrong with me..what am i to him..why did he want to see me? what am I to him? i want to ask him but i'm afraid that it's going to cause un-easiness for both of us..HE TOLD ME IF I COULD WAIT HE KNOWS WE HAVE A FUTURE..if he loved his wife would he have seen me,would he have said what he said to me.. i can't help but wonder, he says he doesn't love her hes just with her for his son, but i don't know if he's just saying that cuz he doesn't want to hurt me? i don't know..he also told me to let him know when..also he wanted me to go to this family get together with him (the wife wasn't going to go) becasue his family really likes me, and they have told me that they like me for him better than her because she's violent to her son..comments like that make me wonder, and i have hope that he still wants to be with me that he's just with her for the kid but ..i don't know what do you think?do you think he still cares for me?...i don't know how i feel..i want to call him and talk about this a little bit but i don't know if i should wait for him to call me.what do you think about all this?
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Okay, I'm not judging you or anything of that matter but why were you with a married man in the first place. Secondly, I know that in 5 years you've had to have fallen in love with him, but if he up's and jumps to leave you all of a sudden. That means that he doesn't feel the same for you. Because if he loved you, and I'm talking true love than he would divorce his wife and stay with you. Regardless if he's divorced or not he can still be able to see his son and provide for his son, he does not have to be with his current wife in order to do so. I believe, that he is making excuses in order to go back to her and leave you guessing like you are now. From my perspective, I believe that he's telling you these pathetic excuses so he can get with her and when things go wrong again he know's he can come back to you. He is using you. Why else is he still with his wife, if he loves you than he would've been called for the divorce. You have some choices.
1) I know you love him, but maybe you should let him go. I mean he is married to another woman! and find someone who will treat you better. That you can start a life with.
2) Ask him to choose, you or her! Confront him about the situation and stand strong!
3) You can stay with him and continue to put up with his BS if that's how much you love him for what he's done to you.
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You need to talk to him at first while i was reading this i was wondering why you are putting your self throuw this than i mean him bringing you up to his family makes me think he really does care. Honestly if he loves you than he will be able to sit down and talk to you anot this. its a big situation and you shouldnt have to put your life on hold for someone you love.
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Honestly I can say about 100 things and probably none of them would be accurate. Although it may be hard and uneasy, you really need to talk to him, if you want the truth, talk to him, b/c he is the only 1 that knows what he is feeling. I really hope everything works out for you, and I am sorry to say this but talk is cheap, he may be just saying those things or he really may mean it, thats why you need to talk to him about it.
Good luck, all the best :)
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