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I can finally go out
Well, I'm 14, and recently, I discussed with my dad if I could have a boyfriend, and he said he guessed so. I'm glad I can finally go out and all, it's just that only one person has asked me out this year, and I had to turn them down... so... yeah... it's not like I'm ugly or annoying, I'm not actually sure why a lot of people don't ask me out. Maybe I'm not flirty enough? I dunno. Can I have some tips on how to flirt with boys? I'm pretty quiet, but I'm outgoing if I get to know someone a little... does that make sense? Ok, well let's just leave it at I'm pretty quiet. And I'm more for boys asking me out, not the other way around... so... yeah...again. Anyone?
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I know that it may seem like you need a boyfriend. But, the thing is, you're much better off without one. Unfortunately, this generation of teen girls come off as desperate and fake. You don't want to be one of those girls who is willing to do anything to get a boy on her hands.
I waited 16 years to get my first kiss and boyfriend (pitiful, to some, perhaps) but it was more than worth it. Why did I wait so long? Because not just any random guy can have the privilige to say he's going out with me. Sounds conceited? It's not. Every girl should want to say the same exact thing. There's no rush to get a boyfriend, because you want a guy who you've liked for awhile and who was well worth the wait.
When I was in 7th and 8th grade, a guy would ask a girl out and she wouldn't even like him and she'd say yes. You don't want to be like that.
Flirting on the other hand can be a piece of cake. I usually smiled and laughed a lot. It's always a good idea to be bubbly in front of the guy you like. It also helped to be funny and make him laugh. Try not to be too loud and obnoxious, guys hate that.
Hope I helped.
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You sound like a nice young girl. I was very much like you when I was 14. I didn't get asked out until I was 16 and by then I was, well, desperate and I said yes just to have a boyfriend. Well, long story short, he was awful and I wish I had never dated him.
What's my point in all this? Dating happens when it happens. If you put too much importance on getting a boyfriend you might wind up dating a creep like I did. Don't tie up your self-esteem in this. It'll only make you feel insecure or too easy for some mediocre boy to swoop in.
I think letting the boys ask you out is perfectly fine. At least then you know for sure they like you and they're not just spending time with you because you're there.
As for how to get them to ask you out... well, just smile at the boys you like and be friendly. You'd be amazed how far that will take you. Don't try to be someone you're not. It's too much work and you'll come off fake, which isn't attractive.
Remember that you can't make a boy like you, but you can make yourself more approachable so that when boys do like you they feel comfortable talking to you. Avoid crossing your arms. Try playing with your hair. These things will make you seem more open and cute.
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