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soo theres this boy.
okay theres this boy that i like and we have a very intimate friendship, that whole friends with benefits thing. anyways he told my best friend he likes me but he doesnt know what to do? he flirts alotttt. and he told his psycho ex he just wanted to be friends nothing more than that. so he got her out the way cuz at one point he wanted to ask me out but she got in the way. but that was a few weeks back now its i like her but i dont know what to do... what does that mean? should i keep flirting back and acting like i like him or just leave it alone? i need HELP. i mean like some really good advice, cuz it hurts to just keep messing with him and like him as much as i do.
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i think if you really like this guy then i think that you would not let anything get in the way of your relationship take my advice on this
just keeping it real
joey
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He is leading you on with the "I like her but I don't know what to do."
This really translates to: "I like the benefits part of the 'relationship' with this girl but I don't see her as being a good girlfriend, especially long-term. She wants more but I don't want to lose the benefits...I don't know what to do."
He isn't seeing you as compatible, and isn't going to see you that way.
Being friends with benefits has the drawback that one side usually ends up developing feelings for the other side. Typically the female of this sort of situation ends up doing this. Young guys, who tend to be driven by their hormones, key in on this and take it for what it's worth--what you're giving him already.
He really just isn't that into you or he would push for a real relationship with you right now.
Even if this was to spur some sort of real relationship, it simply wouldn't last. The entire basis of the relationship would be sex, and those relationships burn out very quickly. He's interested in what you can give him, not who you are, or he would be WITH YOU by now.
This will always be a friends-with-benefits relationship. Even if it developed into anything more, the basis of it would be sexual so the relationship would quickly burn out, leading to more heart-break.
He has no special feelings to you because you aren't special to him. He sees you as someone he can use and drop whenever he wants and someone he can use in the meantime. He'll lead you on, keeping you hanging and hoping, but won't ever develop feelings for you the way you may develop feelings for him.
Watch and wait. He'll eventually find a new girlfriend--but it won't be you. He'll keep saying he likes you--but he won't be dating you. He will lead you on for awhile, dropping "hints" that he likes you, but will NEVER pursue anything with you. He will always turn you down for a real relationship, or end it quickly, giving some sort of, "We should just be friends with benefits" silly reason. (By the way, that line means, "I don't like you at all. I like using you. Let me use you.")
Stop worrying if he likes you.
He likes that he can have sex with you.
That's all.
Seriously.
I promise.
There is no point in asking him if he likes you. He'll give you answers that will make you "stay" in the situation with him. I promise, they never come out and say to your face that they don't like who you are but only care about what they're getting from you.
"I like you a lot but I just don't know what to do right now."
Will probably be his answer.
What is there to do? It isn't so complicated--you KNOW this! Either he likes you enough to want you to be his girlfriend or he doesn't. What can't he make up his mind about? That he doesn't really like YOU--he only likes what you can give him and that IS ALL.
Drop him and find someone who is willing to make a move now FOR YOU, and not for what you can offer.
I hope things turn around and you realize what sort of situation you have put yourself in. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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you are not messing with him because you like him! keep on flirting and being playfull and fun and laughing and crying and being there for him...show him you like him....show it a lot....give him little hints. actions speak louder than words...so yeah...i hope this can help...goodluck!
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if you like him, act like it. maybe he'll finally get the hint that you really do like him, and he'll ask you out. if he doesn't, speak up. ask him about it. tell him you like him. the worst thing in life is to think back and regret not doing something, so if you really like him, just go for it!
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