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boy troubles
16/f
i have a boyfriend and we've been going out for about 2 months and i really love him. he's the best. but see, there's this guy in my gym class and he always flirts with me during class. after gym he sometimes even comes to my locker and walks me to my next period class. but here's the thing, i always meet up with my boyfriend in between classes and whenever the guy is at my locker, i have to take a detour so i dont see my boyfriend otherwise my boyfriend will think i'm cheating on him with this other kid. and then i have to lie and say that my gym class got let out late and thats why i didn't meet him.
you're probably thinking that i should just straight up tell this guy that i have a boyfriend. but i HATE making people feel bad. ABSOLUTELY HATE IT!! i actually kind of like this guy... but i know that i would be much much MUCH better off with my current boyfriend and i should stick with him. i'm not the type of girl who changes boyfriends every now and then... and i really DO NOT want to be those kinds of girls.
so what i think i'm saying is... i want to keep my current boyfriend, but i also like it when this other guy flirts with me, but i would not want him as my boyfriend.
WHAT SHOULD I DO??? help i'm so lost.
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If you think that your better pff woth your current boyfriend, then tell the other guy that you have a boyfriend so he isn't lead on and in the end isn't the one getting his feelings hurt. If you end up liking this guy a lot, break up w/ your current boyfriend and start dating him. I know that sounds mean but life's to short to doodle and be sad or wanting something. Hope this helps!
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Hahaha. I've been here SO many times.
What I usually do is tell them I have a boyfriend but that I like the way they flirt. I also tell my boyfriend that there's a guy that likes to flirt with me, and that it's a nice ego boost.
Considering your age, though, I'd say don't tell either of them anything. That worked for me in high school. Just play the flirt off as a friend to your boyfriend and if the flirt asks about the boyfriend, that's when you need to be straight with him and tell him, not until then though.
The locker thing is tricky. Again, play the flirt off as a friend, and tell your boyfriend that your friend likes to meet you at your locker during that period. Even tell him you're trying to hook him up with another of your chick friends, and to keep that from being a lie you could make feeble attempts. ^_^
It's all about being crafty, honey. I am the queen of crafty.
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I know you said that you don't want to tell him you have a boyfriend, because your afraid you'll hurt him, but in a way you'll have to hurt him to get him to stop flirting with you or waiting for you, or your just going to hurt your boyfriend.
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