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I don't know what to do!
So I just moved this year to a new HIGH SCHOOL (I'm a soph), and I absolutely HATE IT. I have like some people to talk to in classes but nobody who goes out of their way to be like really good friends. I have a lunch table to sit at but its not any better than sitting alone honestly because the people are in tiny cliques at the table and ignore me.. :( I spend majority of my lunch time in the library...it's really sad....i've never ever ever had to do that before. I've moved a lot too! (Never in high school tho). And so anyways, you get the basic point. I have no friends to talk to after/before school. Or friends to hang out with in this town (except ONE friend who goes to A CATHOLIC SCHOOL and Ive known her for awhilee but she's busy most of the time). So anyways, the question. I was thinking about going to her Catholic school. I mean at least I would have her right? If not anyone else?? Problem is, it's 6000 somethinn a yearr. My family would have to find the money from god knows where to keep me in there. I'm getting a job (Planning on it so i may be able to help...a little) but its still a lot of money! I'm not catholic but i'm christian...so i'm not going for the religion but my parents were talking about putting me in a christian school but its like 4000 DOLLARS MORE EXPENSIVE! And i'm like nooo, thats stupid!! I'd rather just go to my friends school! It has more electives (Like fashion, which the other school doesnt have and I really wanna take it). And it has my friend....and i'm not saying she's going to be the only friend I have in the school because I plan on making friends through her or on my own..but like in the end i can hang out with her in the mornings or afternoons....compared to this school right now where i just go to school and get out as soon as possible to get a ride with my mom....its really sad... :\ So i'm unsure of what to do. I just donnoo if i can stay in this stpuid school :[ even if I had the money to do extra curriculars :[ ughhhh. please helppppppp :( thats my parents argument. Like if I stayed in the public school i have money for extra curriculars...such as voice lessons, acting classes, etc. but ughh idkkk :( please help!!
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I've been in this situation..and it truely sucks. Everyone already has their cliques and its really really stupid cause no one opens up to invite you to hang out. I know for sure if i saw someone knew i'd talk to them and get to know them and help them feel welcome. But trust me if you can make it in this school you'll be so prepared when college comes around. It's hard going to a new school..no one knows you and it seems like no one wants to know you. I found that guys are actually a lot more accepting. You really just have to be out going and make that connection with people. In your classes, participate in group activities..talking and joking around with people will get them to know you. Raising your hand to say answers, asks questions. Joining a club or after school activity is a GREAT way to meet people. You can get a job at a place where people at your school shop or eat or something. You'll meet a lot of people that way too. My friend works at Hollister and she see's so many people from my school and talks with them even if their not friends you can say "Do you go to _________?" and stuff. You also meet a lot of people that way too. I think you should try to stick it out for a few months which is probably not what you want to hear..but you really just have to try.
Let me know if you need more help!
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Wow, I know how you feel! I moved a lot, too - and I also went to a new school my sophomore year. To make things worse, I was super shy, so it took me forever to start making friends at school. The one thing that saved me was that I was a gymnast. As soon as we moved to a new town, I'd find a gym and join the team. That's where I usually found most of my closest friend.
Maybe the extra curriculars will help. If you haven't already started, go ahead and start your acting classes or voice lessons. That's the best way to meet people who have similar interests. It could also help to become involved in some school activities. Instead of coming straight home, join some clubs that meet after school. Even if it's something you've never done before, or something that sounds kind of boring, why not give it a try? It can't be any worse than sitting at home alone, and you might end up enjoying it. And who knows... it may be the place where you meet your future best friend.
It's only October right now - the majority of the school year is still ahead of you, and things will most likely get better. But if you're still hating it by the end of the year, maybe your parents will be open to the Catholic School, after seeing that you've given the public school a chance. Catholic schools usually have really good reputations, so they attract a lot of non-Catholic students. But don't base your decision just on the fact that your friend goes there. Visit both schools - the Catholic and the Christian one - with an open mind.
But I'm betting it won't get to that point. In all likelihood, you're going to find at least a couple friends you really like at your current school, and then you won't want to leave! And then you can keep up your extra curriculars, and all will be great!
Good luck!
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