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im 18 and my boyfriend lives in a different state. he always come to visit me. my last class is on wednesday (im in college)
i want to visit him this weekend and im taking the bus bc my car cant make it up there (its old)
i need a very good reason to leave my house for 4 days to tell my parents any ideas? they dont allow me or my sister (22) to have bfs. they are just strict so any GOOD ideas.
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First off, I have to say, that's extremely strict!!
However, I really think lying would be a very bad idea. Think about it for a moment. Your parents are already very strict. Do you really believe that if you lie, you will get away with it? And if you do get caught, just imagine the consequences of your actions, knowing how strict your parents are already. It just isn't worth the risk.
You need to have a conversation with your parents. Really talk to them (unemotionally) about the situation. You need to be very calm and mature about it. Explain that you have a boyfriend that you care a lot about and you believe that you are old enough for them to invest some trust in you to officially date him because you don't feel comfortable seeing him behind their backs.
The chances are, their initial reaction will not be favourable. The groundwork for overcoming this is entirely up to you. Prove to them that you are responsible. Use good grades as an example of handling your responsibilities as a mature adult and offer to introduce them to the man in question.
Hopefully, once they meet him and you have proven yourself responsible and trustworthy, they will allow you the freedom to see him. Including staying with him.
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Wow...
Thats ridiculous. Your 22 year old sister.
As far as lies, you know far better than we do about your life, and what would be believable by your parents. I have no idea, and I doubt I could offer more than a shot in the dark.
But your parents... that needs to be addressed. I imagine college is possibly on the line, but thats ridiculous. You need to talk to them, tell them that at 18 you are talking to guy, and you are going to date however you can, that it is past the point when they can do anything other than threaten your future for being a normal person and dating at 18.
Thats how I'd approach it anyway. Tell them that you have a boyfriend, tell them that you are going to see him whether they like it or not, and that it would be really fucked up of them to threaten your future or your freedom because you are being an adult and developing adult relationships.
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Do the school thing, everyone else answered it and said that, but about the first answer with the friends family trip don't do that one because then your parents, being stirict and all might want to talk to your friends parents about it. However, they might also want to talk to your teacher about the school trip. You could make a fake permission slip and have them sign it.
Good luck though
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just say your school is senting you somewhere (relationg to your major ).parents can read body lauguage and stuff so dont look scared just think about the happy times your going to have.if you need money for the trip just say that your going to need money for food .best of luck
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Damn! They're still restricting you from boyfriends? You'll need to talk to them about that soon as well..
But anyways, first off, are you going to be paying for this trip on your own or do you need money from them? If you're paying, you could tell them it's a trip dealing with your school, where they suggested some course at another school dealing with whatever it is you're studying.
Or you could tell them that a girlfriend of yours invited you on her family trip. Be careful though; parents can be very sneaky.
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