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Is this even right?
I'm 17 and I'm dating a guy who is 22. The age of consent in the state where I live is 18. Will he get in trouble if he kisses me (and someone finds out and tells)?
Also, I've been wondering this lately, why would a 22 year old man be interested in a 17 year old girl? Is this anything to be concerned about? I'm not getting any creepy vibes from him...
Oh and I don't know if this matters but we're both in college so we're in similar stages of our lives.
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I will just add my view to the second part of the question. I tend to agree that what Razhie said is generally true, but I have seen many instances where things worked out pretty well.
One of my friends has been living with his girlfriend for the last 3 years or so. He was 30 when they started and she was 18. No problems at all... other than the usual relationship kind of stuff.
Another one of my friends is 25 and currently involved with a much younger girl. As he puts it, they are the perfect couple, with her being more mature for her age and him being very much on the immature side :D
Some years ago I had another friend who was involved with a 17 year old. He was about 23-4. No problem there either... related to age that is, the family of the girl hated him for dating her.
I actually have more examples, but I will leave it at that.
So, let me get to my point. I do not think that this makes him creepy. I do not believe that one is necessarily a poor fit, nor that one absolutely must be at a different stage.
It varies a lot from person to person. Some choose to "mature" in such a way that they cut all ties with who they once were. A good many of us do not. My friends group ranges in age from about 21 to 64. I get along with all of them.
So, if you are getting along and have no issues, don't worry about the numbers, except of course in regards to the law.
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Kissing isn't forbidden by the AOC laws, however, if your parents are not keen on the relationship and find you too are involved, they do have some rights to separate you two.
So as long as your parents are not going to stand in your way, you are fine to kiss.
Although you might both be in college, I promise you that you are not at the same stage in your lives. I’m 23 myself, and I’m practically a completely different person then I was at 17. My values and ethics have all evolved and my goals and desires from a relationship are very different.
Although he might not be ‘creepy’, it’s good to keep your eyes and ears open. He is at a different stage in life then you are, regardless of college. And although it’s not always the case, it often is that there is a reason a twenty-something dates a teenager is because they couldn’t handle being with someone their own age. You have very different levels of experience when it comes to opposite sex. Be very careful and aware that he is not taking advantage of your lack of experience and leaving you feeling low or controlled.
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