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should i have a baby now?
ok so heres the situation. when i was just a baby my mom and dad got a divorce and my dad quit comin around. so my grandparents pretty much raised me while my mom was workin her butt off all the time. i love my mom but my relationship with my grandparents is much much stronger. well i moved 14 hours away from them about ten years ago and now my grandpa is being put into a nursing home and its tearing my grandma apart. she also is in not so good shape, but she can sstill take care of herself. she's the main reason i wake up every morning. i love my grandma more then anyone in the world. so far she has no great grandchildren and i wanna be the first to give them to em. i want them to be able to atleast see one great grandchild before they (especially my gpa) passes. the problem is i'm only 18 and still in school. i'm with the guy of my dreams and we're planning on getting married. we've been together for 3 years and we really wanna start a family. we both wanna have a baby soon but i dont know if next month is too soon. see next june my boyfriend and i are both moving down there to live with my dad and go to college. so i'll be around my grandparents all the time. i'm just really scared that they might be a little disappointed because im still in school and not married. i dont know what to do!!!!! :(
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I really think you should think that over, grandparents are always the onez that would rather see there grandchildren go to college and make something out of themselves before they start a family, they love you for it!
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I promise you, your grandparents would rather you BE eighteen, go to college and have a successful life, then have a grandchild.
Grandparents aren't selfish. It certainly sounds like yours are even less selfish then normal. So don't try use them to justify what you know would be a bad choice. Keep your urges in check, and organize your life in the way that will be best for you, and your future child.
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i think its nice how you want your grandparents to see your kids so i think you should do it might be hard since your not married and in school but if your really committed to this then you should do it and you can get engaged now and then get married once you have your child just make sure that your positive that you want this child and marriage before you do it i hoped i helped and your grandparents will be proud of u not dissapointed your doing something for them because you love them so how can they be good luck:)
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