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A boyfriend
14/f
For so long I've been wanting a boyfriend. One of my friends always gets a boyfriend when she wants one. She is pretty and nice, she is smart. I'm different from other people in my group of friends. All of us are different. I'm kinda shy but I can be outgoing if I actually talk to a person more. But I've had 3 boyfriends which was like 2 years ago. Now I don't even think boys like me. Some have called me hot and all that but seriously. I think I will never get a boyfriend. Is is like weird to be thinking this? I know what most people will say. The right guy will come. But I want to at least know what its like to have a boyfriend since it was when I was in 7th grade I hardly remember anything. I don't think I'm really ugly and I'm not really skinny either. Is the reason my friend gets a boyfriend is because of the way she looks at acts? She is more of "emo" type girl but really pretty. I dress in brighter colors and I don't know. I just want to know if there is any chance or if I'm too weird or something thats making this hard for me. Maybe I'm just losing it or something. But this has been on my mind for a very long time.
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i actually know exactly what you mean and have the same issue.
good luck!
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Its because youre shy.
Shy people are hard to approach. They don't give a whole lot away, and so you never know what to say to them in order to get them to do more than stare awkwardly at you.
Its mostly just not knowing how to talk to you.
How to combat it? Try to be more talkative. If someone starts to engage you in conversation, talk back about something, try not to blank out.
Another thing. Shyness is also body language. Two ways you can combat that.
- Eye contact. Looking people in the eye shows attention on them and confidence in yourself. Its easier to talk to people who look you in the eye.
- Smiles. Smiles let people know everything is ok. It doesnt have to be a big smile, but someone who smiles when you interact with them is infinitely easier to do so with, because you are getting positive feedback.
Work on these, and guys will probably approach you more frequently and talking will be easier. Beyond that, just get out there and socialize. The more you do it, the easier it is.
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Honey, there will be a day when you will have problems getting guys to realize you aren't interested. I didn't have a boyfriend till I was almost 15 and then I didn't have one for about three years. Now I can't get them to leave me alone.
For now, if you really want one, go ask someone out. You'd be amazed how many guys are just afraid of being rejected. It's not easy to ask, you know. Just ask someone you like. Life is about taking risks. Don't wait for the right guy, go find him. There's no reason you shouldn't put yourself out there trying avidly to just find someone. You're young. Look for Mr. Right-Nows not Mr. Right.
Oh and as for your friend, there's this weird phenomenon that happens after high school where the really hot girls that can't get guys to leave them alone tend to get fat... like REALLY fat... The girls that take a little more time finding that spark tend to be the ones that are attractive to guys for the rest of their lives... I've seen it happen.
Patience is a virtue you know.
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You are only 14 years old, You are still young. It's not about finding someone who is pretty, or hot. It's about finding someone you love, have something in common with and enjoy being around. As you probably know, At the age of fourteen most boys are not fully mature and are looking at what is attractive not the personality side. I know you probably feel like you are on the side lines but why be so eager to get a boyfriend? You have plenty of time to get one trust me it will happen. Who cares if you're friends all have boyfriends, Waiting for him to come will only make it more special for you when it happens. Just relax and have fun don't worry about it so much he will come around when you least exspect it. ;)
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