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my friend and her boyfriend
first of all I'd like to apologize for any spelling errors, I'm on my iPod touch and sometimes it corrects my words to be the wrong word.
So I'm a senior, 17, female. But this isnt completely about me. Its abut my friend and her boyfriend. Let's call them B and G. (my friend = G. boyfriend = B.) k well the have been dating since like march I guess. But they had previously dated. So it was like a month they never kissed or anything. G was B's first girlfriend. Then they broke up and G dated two other guys in the five month period. Then they got back together in march. It bothered me just because they would celebrate anniversaries counting from when they first date so in April it was their six month anniversary. Even though G dated other people.
But anyways
I lived at the beach over the summer. Everything was fine amd happy when I left. Now that I've been back a little over a month, things have changed. She has changed. She is mean to me,doesnt talk to any of our friends, she doenst seem to be having any fun, and seems to always be with him. The worst thing is she isnt going to her senior homecoming because of him. He doesnt want to go. But she always loved dances. He isnt letting her go unless he goes, and he'd be watching over her.
All of her friends have noticed how she's changed and how he is being manipulative of her. We all want to talk to her but she is the most stubborn person ever. We want to let her know how we feel about B, but were worried that if we mention her relationship, she won't listen or she'll bite our heads off.
What should I(we) do? We just want her to be happy, and her relationship doesnt seem happy. Should I just butt out of her business?
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Well... first off it's not unnatural to count anniversaries from when they first got together. My boyfriend and I do it and we've broken up like four times. It's just a thing.
To the real matter. I had this happen with a close friend of mine. We lost contact for a while, and as it turned out not only was the boyfriend manipulative but also abusive. There was nothing we could do though, because my friend didn't want to listen. If you suspect abuse tell someone like her parents. I took a backseat and let it play out, because all I knew was that the guy was a manipulative jerk. Three months after I lost contact my friend showed up at my front door in tears. We went and picked up the pieces and that's what you'll have to do.
You can't rule her life. It's how things are, but when things end (and they will) be there to help her regain a handle on her life.
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