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boyfriend tells me...
My boyfriend seems to think that when he calls other girls hot it impresses me.
Well it doesnt, and honestly, it's really pissing me off.
Once or twice is some-what acceptable, but i'm talking about almost every day!
It's so awkward for me because i just stand there and look like a total idiot.
I mean, what am i supposed to say ...?
"Cool" ??
yeah right, so the other day i talked to him about it, and he said that's the last time i'll ever hear it from his mouth.
A few days pass and he was really keeping his word.
Then the other day we were talking about lindsay lohan and he was like
"Im not even gunna say it!"
and i was like
"what?"
"that shes hot."
and i was like "YOU JUST DID!"
things like that.
another thing he does is point out EVERY SINGLE pretty girl in the mall he says he knows and say
"I used to like her"
One time i busted him because we go to different schools
and he was like "I used to like her"
and it turns out the girl he pointed to
went to MY school.
so i said "how do you know her?"
and he was like "she goes to my school"
and then she comes over and says
"Hey!" to me.
not even acknowledging him!
and he never spoke about since then.
he does it to impress me and i know it.
or he'll spot a grouup of other pretty girls and tell me he knows him.
I have no idea what to do anymore!
im lost.
what do i do?
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Oh Jesus Christ in Heaven
Someone needs to kick that stupid boy in the nuts.
You posted your age, I'm more curious about HIS. Is his father a former Fratboy? Is his mom a Trophy wife? Because he sounds like the product of one of those households where his dad married hot and young and has been bragging about it to salve his fading middle aged ego to the only person who would find it impressive (his son)
How do you handle this? You shatter his illusions.
I'll give you a short speech, take ideas and make it your own.
"(Boysfriends name), when you talk to girls, call them hot, say you know them, and act like a big shot, its completely transparent. It feels like you want me to believe you're cool because you don't really believe that yourself. I like you, you're fun to be around, but you need to get over your own insecurities and stop "trying to be cool" all the damn time, because it gets really tiring. No one is impressed, least of all me. If you want to impress me, remember my birthday, take me out to do something free thats still romantic, pay attention to what I'm saying when I say it, and remember that Lindsey Lohan is a lesbian and probably would think your dick looks like a hairless caterpillar with a wierd mouth"
The way you deal with is by shattering his illusions. One of the chief differences between men and women is the point in their lives that they develop self awareness. The point where they not only actually wondering what other people think, but grow in intelligence enough to be right about it at least some of the time.
Women, it starts usually before puberty. Men it usually begins to kick in after.
Thing is, some guys need an extra kick in the pants. They build this illusion of "I'm such a badass" around themselves and think that no one else can see through it. You need to shatter that one way mirror that he only sees himself as he wants to see in, and everyone else sees through. Shatter his illusions, and let him know that you still like him without them.
He might actually be a decent boyfriend once his ego recovers. Or he might break up with you and move on to someone who will smile vacantly and accept his bullshit.
If the second happens, it really truly is his loss, and you're well shot of him.
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well if it's only about an actress I dont see the big deal. Im sure you think some actors are hot, its just he's more open about it. I could see if he was telling you girls in your school were hot, but he doesn't have a chance with these actresses and he knows it. You should do exactly what you said.. just say "cool" like you dont care. he'll grow out of it.
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Tell him you DON'T find it impressing at ALL!! And it actually is quite stupid and immature. Guys have the weirdest ideas when it comes to impressing a girl they like, so tell him you don't like him telling you who he finds hott or whatever, and that is why he has GUY friends, to talk to them about things like that, not to his girlfriend. Tell him you know that he lies sometimes and you don't get why he finds it as something impressive. Just let him know how you feel.
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Well it sounds like he's actually trying to make you jealous. That maybe he wants you to look a certain way or act a certain way.
A guy knows,common sense [[if they have any]], that talking about other girls being attractive to another girl's FACE is only going to do the opposite of attract.
But guys are dumb, well most, but if the Lindsay Lohan thing is the only event that has occured recently, I'd let it go. Because he must be trying, but I would ask him " What the hell are you trying to say? Do you want me to be someone else because that is what you're hinting at?
But if he keeps up after that, after he KNOWS your pissed, I WOULD personally leave him or in other cases such as young girls like to do, make him jealous as well. That isn't the most intelligent thing to do but it might be a way to make him see what it feels like to not be the only one looked at in the room.
Just do what he does but with guys "Oh he is hot! wouldn't you agree -name-?"
It would probably work. An eye for an eye and not in a violent way. I think he'd know what you're doing after the 2nd or 3rd time that day you said it.
Hope this helps! [[ This might seem a bit immature but these days, with guys, what ISN'T?]]
let me know if it works out
-KD/f/15
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okay. first breath.
i know how you feel.
but what you should honestly do.
is blow him off.
if he says it.
playfully smack him and make him think that you dont care.
hes just trying to get a rise out of you.
remember though. he's with you, not them.
and the whole lindsey lohan thing.
okay. maybe he thinks shes hot...but i can almost 100% ensure you that he will never be with her nor have the chance.
if he keeps it up.
give him the same treatment.
tell him the guys that you think are hot.
or how you "used to like them".
he may continue to do it, but i bet he'll be thinkin the thoughts that you are too.
oh yea. the most important fact.
HE'S A DUDE. dudes. dont think.
at least not with the head thats on their shoulders. ;)
good luck.
-jessicamarie.
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