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I told my best friend how I felt
I told my best friend I loved him because he has said so many times he loves me but he has a GF so today I got so upset and finnaly told him I was falling in love and he said nothing just gave me a blank face so i said I had to go and ran away. I cant talk to him anymore and he wont talk to me. I know I shouldnt have said anyhting and now I dont know what to do. We have tried not talking before because we had dated then broken up and then we strted to talk agian and the feelings came back but stronger so IDK what to do he is my best friend and i have fallin for him but now he wont talk to me. Please someone Help me
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there must be a reason for you breaking up with him and you must stand by it.
its ok to continue being friends just give it time, don't ask all "i like you" to him cause he wont take it seriously. i know its hard to pretend you don't like him but you'll find someone someday.
try to be more open to other people either in finding a boyfriend or just plain friends.
and support him!!! in everything and yes i also mean his relationship remind him that your a good friend and maybe in time something good would happen...
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good luck!!!
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the same thing happened to me and it suxs... but what i did is i just gave him space and time to think... and then he finally talked to me and we worked it all out... all you got to do is take your mind of it for a while and when he feels like talking i'm sure he'll talk to you... and if he doesn't feel the same way -since he has a gf- your gonna have to understand that... and maybe yall can still be friends :) and if it doesn't work out maybe you should move on... i kno it hurts to hear that... but it's something everyone has to do.
hope everything goes well.
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It seems that your in a precarious situation. If you hang out with your friend, it seems that you are always going to have these feelings for him, and when you don't hang out with him, then those feelings are gone.
I would suggest, that just to get back on speaking terms, you have to realize something. You guys are just friends, and that is how he defines this relationship with you. You need to treat him like a friend. It's obvious that he is not attracted to the idea of you loving him when he is going out with somebody else. As long as he is going out with this individual, you have to accept that all you are for the moment is friends and support his decision.
I would assume that you want to talk to him again continue that friendship. What you will need to do is apologise for what you had said, and explain that at the moment you only want to be friends and that only. I'm going to assume that he will eventually break up with this girl at some point, so bide your time. A bit after he is broken up with this girl, see how he acts around you again. If he is treating you the way he did before, and telling you that he loves you, then that may be a sign. If he doesn't approach you, then after a while you can make the first move.
Ask him what he meant when he said that he loved you and find out if it is the same feelings of love that you have for him. If it does indeed turn out that he loves you the way that you love him, than express your feelings for him again. If he only loves you as a friend, than you are going to have to make a decision.
You obviously have strong feelings for this person, but you can never force another one to love you. If he doesn't have the same feelings for you, your either going to have to accept just his friendship and put aside your feelings of love, or break all communication with him.
I hope this helps, and I'll be glad to try and help you further if you should need it.
-Mitch
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