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My date's a shy kisser!! Help!!
well i'm dating the guy who's 17 and i'm 16. when we were on our second date recently and I really like him, so I built up the courage and spontaneously kissed him in public. except he pulled bak and said we were blocking people's way ( which is true) but afterwards I didn't wana pressure him so we left it.
He confessed he was too shy to kiss in public. Is that common? I thought kissing someone you adored meant : time stops, everything around you disappears and it's only u and the other person left in that moment. It's magical:)
How can I encourage him and help build his confidence? He's the most laid back person I've ever met, and enjoys holding hands and holding my waist in public, yet he's shy about kissing? What a paradox ay? relaxed but shy...XD
Many thanks for your advice!
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Kuddos to you for pulling the first move ;)
Some people are just like that,it's not uncommon.I actually don't really like kissing in public,i feel like everyone is watching me,which makes things awkward for me.I dont mind a few pecks on the lips,just nothing with the tongue or full on making out.Since it's only been your second date,that makes it kinda rushed to kiss in public,maybe it takes time for him to get used to that.It could also be something he just cant ever build up his confidence for.So i'd say give it time,start out with small pecks here and there so he gets more comfortable with it.If he's still not comfortable with that,wait till he takes the leap and kisses you in public ;) It's all about baby steps :D if you need anymore help,just leave one in my inbox ;)
good luck!
♥ danielle
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I tend to agree with your viewpoint, but I know plenty of people who aren't comfortable kissing in public. This could be for a variety of reasons - including simply not being comfortable doing so. This may or may not be something he is willing to change.
I suppose you might want to think about what kissing represents. If you just want to kiss him when you feel like kissing him, perhaps that needs to be toned down to a cheek or a quick peck on the lips? Starting small might mean that you're putting your guy more at ease - if he's never kissed in public, it's understandable he might not want to go whole hog.
And while I'm a fan of kissing where and when you want, it is quite nice that he was mindful of other people. Nothing is worse than blatant, ongoing, sloppy displays of affection that block everyone's way!
Kissing can also be viewed as quite an intimate thing, and if someone feels that way you can see why they might prefer to do it in private. After all, you could argue that makes it more special.
Whatever happens, I wish you (both) luck!
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Some guys like to take things slow. If you were only on your second date with him, he might of felt like it was too soon. Give him time. Let him get comfortable around you. There are a lot of people who don't like showing affection in public. It's not because they don't like you, it's because they don't want to give other people the wrong impressions of them. Just take things slow and he will eventually open up more and feel comfortable to kiss you whenever and wherever.
Thank you for inboxing.
x0-* Bryttnii
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