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My fiance doesnt want to marry me for four years??
So ive been with my fiance for awhile and i really want to get married. I already have baby fever. I am moving 400 miles away from my family to live with him which to me would be a big deal if i was him. Hes going to college as a freshman everytime the topic comes up he says he cant. He is capible but doesnt want to. I dont know why he doesnt want to get married but it sucks. Can anyone help me. Is it me? Should i not be moving? What else can i do to show him i want to get married!!
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You are being pretty insensitive and a bit self-involved.
As big a change for you as moving is, going to college is for him. His friends, his time, his job, his money are all going to change. EVERYTHING is going to change.
It would be stupid, just plain fucking stupid, for him to have a child while attending college full time. Not only is it unlikely he could afford it, it would certainly negatively impact on his education.
Getting married, at the same time as going through another major life change (ie, going to college) would also not be very bright.
How old are you two? 'Cause if you are older teens and he is headed off to college for the first time, you need to get your hormones in check. Having a child right now, before he completed school and before you’ve both saved a bit of a nest egg, would be financial suicide, and getting married at your age doesn’t give you a very good chance of a long and happy marriage either. Couples who wait until they are a bit older, are more likely to stay married.
It doesn’t matter if he is technically ‘capable’ of getting married. I’m technically capable of buying a house, but it would be a very bad idea when you look at the larger context of my life.
You need to take some lessons in maturity and life-planning from your boyfriend. If you can’t wait until he finishes school, then you should probably go date someone who is in as much of a rush as you are.
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You need to talk to this guy!Tell him that You gave four years of your life to HIM,taking care of him and doing everything he wants and how marriage would proove to you that his love is for you is true!Youre moving 400 miles away from your family to some far state you arent used to for him and now its time he gave something to you too!!Love is all about sacrifice and if he isnt sacrificing enough then hes not worth it!Plan what youre going to say then tell him,and if it doesnt work then tell him im sorry im not going to arkansas with you,why should i if i keep doing so much for you and youre not doing the least thing that proves your love to me?Tell him youre not going and mabey then hell think about it and marry you.
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Just take slow with him. Guys like to take slow when it comes to being married beind a father.
Just take baby steps with him.
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Maybe he isn't ready for marriage just yet. You could try asking him if marriage is something he might want to concider in the near future and see what he says too that. However, I wouldn't keep on pushing him about it because sometimes it scares the guy off. Try asking little questions and see how he feels. :)
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