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parents are suffocating me
16/f
my parents keep such a strict eye on me, and i really just want to have fun. i got caught in my friend's car a couple of weeks ago when she was still on JOL, so i was grounded and now they're keeping an even closer watch on me.
tomorrow night, my friend is having a sort of party and i want to go. there will be alcohol there, and i want to have some to let loose and have fun. i don't know what to say to my parents, because i know they'll call me to ask what i'm doing and thoroughly question me. they need to let me make my own mistakes, but they don't understand that.
any advice on what to do about tomorrow night and in the future with my parents?
Thank you
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If i were you i would ask them if i could go to a sleepover,
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ask them if you can sleepover your friend's house the next night, tell them she might be having a few people over before you go to bed but her parents will be there (that way you won't be full out lieing, you don't have to tell them theres a huge party) . act like it's just a harmless sleepover between a few friends. if they are a little suspicious, tell them you could even call them before you go to bed. if you really want to/need to you can drink a little before you call them just make sure you can control yourself, but i wouldn't risk it. after you call them you can drink. so you might want to call kind of early before all the people leave so just say your watching a movie and you think you might fall asleep that's why your saying goodnight now. and then you can drink. then DON'T talk about that night in your house with your friends, or on the phone when your parents might be able to hear, or through text messages. also, don't take pictures. because those are ways that it is so easy to get caught, and then your parents will know that your 'harmless sleepover with parents home' was actually a party with alchy. then they prob. won't even let you have sleepovers so just do all that and you will be gooood ! :)also get in a quiet room before you call them.
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your parents know what is best for you.
they love you and want to keep you safe.
at the same time they might be overdoing it so let them know they can tust you by showing them that they have raise you well.
and please don't drink alcohol. just try water or soda.just because your friends are drinking it dosen't mean you have to
bye and thanks for writting
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Talk to them calmly.
Tell them that you're going to call them every couple of hours, just so they know what you're up to an you're ok.
Don't try to do things behind their back ot anything.
Also, if they find out that you were at a party drinking, they will take a long time to regain your trust.
You see, a couple of years ago I told my parents I was going to a Drama club, but instead I was going out with friends. Not that much of a big deal, but I wasn't doing what I was telling my parents.
Unfortunately, the drama club called them and asked them why I hadn't been turning up.
To make things worse, they also found my cigarettes that day.
So they didn't trust me for about two years.
And whenever I smelled like smoke, even though I stopped smoking, they wouldn't trust me at all. They wanted to smell my breath and my fingers.
It sucked.
So I think you should be careful, and try to sleep over at your friend's house :)
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I think you should lay low, they're only trying to protect you. and you're only sixteen. Not that I know any better, but I know that I would rather take the restriction, than ending up in Juvi... but make your own mistakes...
you only live once.
:D
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explain to your parents why you want a little bit more freedom [start with some at first cause they'll be able to accept that better]. no matter what you do, dont lie to them. if they find out that you lied to them one time, it'll take a while to regain their trust and that will just ruin everything you've been trying to do.
tell them you wanna go to your friends house. and if your friend lets you sleep over, tell your parents you'll call them before you go to bed. and when you do call them, dont be drinking that much. eventually your parents will realize that they have no reason not to trust you.
let me know how everything works out !
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