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Best Friends Needs Help
hi,
my best friend dated a guy on and off for about six months. he's going away to college in the fall and he was away the whole summer so he kind of broke it off in june. then they started talking again a couple of weeks ago and decided they were both ready for sex. so they had sex this afternoon, and she came over tonight and was clearly upset that he's leaving.
i don't know what to say to her, because she's emotionally attached to him and he's leaving for college. he says he wants to see her when he's home from college for breaks, but she's been crying over his leaving and i don't know what to do.
any help?
thank you so much!
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i'm not the kind of advice columnist to beat around the bush, ok?
i'm in college myself and i can tell you that he isn't going to be coming home that often for visits. and when he's at college he's going to be with other girls.
now they had sex and she's attached to him because of that. girls have sex out of emotional necessity. guys have sex because it feels good. that's just life.
the best thing for you to do is to take your friend out and help her get over this guy otherwise everytime he actually does come home from college it'll be to have her as his bed buddy and she'll never get a relationship out of it.
just trust me on this.
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It's very difficult to stand by and watch your best friend be in pain about a long distance relationship, but there isn't much you can do about it except be there for her when she needs someone to talk to. You can also try and do things to keep her from thinking about him, make sure you guys are always doing something, like the movies, having sleepovers, going shopping, fun things like that. But don't force her, if for the first few days she just wants to be depressed and eat Ben & Jerry's then let her, she needs a little bit of time to be sad, but don't let it go on forever. Try your best to keep her spirit up and most importantly always be there when she needs to talk.
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There ain't much you can do, she gave in at the wrong time, it's going to be hard for her him being away,normally the one you have sex with is the one you are ready to merry,have her bring up the subject.
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Be there for her always. Nothing you say will change the fact that hes going away to college. She needs to get over that on her own time. Just tell her that he will be back, he loves her, and that so do you, and that you will never leave. That you will be there for her whenever she needs to talk. She'll really appreciate that.
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