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should i say anything?
iv been cutting for like a year and my dad knows he took me to "get help" but i didnt want then and now its getting worse and i now i want help i asked my dad if he would get me help lke 4 months ago and he still hasnt done anything about it. he told me he doesnt think i need it but he doesnt know im still cutting cuz i do it on the top of my arms where he cant see the cuts soo wht should i do? just not say anyhting?
thanx
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DAMN !!! You need to stop cutting yourself!
You have to face up to the fact that you have a mental fascination with entering your body's skin with sharp objects and then seeing the results! That is not just abnormal, it is harmful! You need to realize that beyond just rationalizing it!
I do not know why your father did not ASK more about your problem! I think your obsession MAY be psychologically related to his indifference and inconsideration, but I do not know that.
I cannot advise you without knowing how mature your own father is about things. What would happen if you just showed him that you are still cutting yourself and told him the problem is not stopping? Would he get irrationally angry and do something rash like locking you in your bedroom? Would he simply get angry and in frustration show his disgust with you? Would he indeed take you for medical (not psychological) evaluation and then decide from that if you need psychological help?
As well, can you answer me this? ARE YOU CAPABLE OF ENDING THIS HARMFUL OBSESSION ON YOUR OWN WITHOUT TELLING YOUR FATHER OR ANYONE ELSE ABOUT IT? To me, this is the best course!
You do not say what you use and how available it is for you to cut yourself. Do you keep Xacto knives around, pocket knives, anything you really do not need to have? That is not the actual solution, because the actual solution is NOT to MISUSE anything to do HARM to yourself even if those implements are around!
You NEED to stop being so introverted!!!!!! I think that is one aspect of your problem. If you have outside interests that are socially fun with other people, doing things, you probably are not going to want to harm yourself, or, if you do still feel inclinations, you need to analyze those inclinations to cut yourself as being harmful and undesireable and to be something in your mind that you do not want to ever bother you again! And pushing those harmful thoughts out of your mind is the key to your improvement.
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I think you should just go to a close friend and talk to them about it, then maybe go to there parent (mom mainly) the one you trust and tell them about it ask them if they can get you a guidence councelor or w/e you wanna call it so you can vetn out the problems in your life (the reasons you cut) and then maybe you'll stop jst throw out your cutting material and you won't be tempted.
_Bubbles. xo <3
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you need to show him and tell him whats going on. and if he still doesn't listen then help yourself. there is no reason to cut yourself because if you are a christian than you will keep reading... god put you on this earth for a reason and cutting yourself isnt helping you do what you are supposed to do
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Well then Darling, I think it may be time for you to get some definite help. A few months back, someone in my school approached my counselor and told her they were "worried about me". I was oh so pissed, and all I wanted to do was find that person and murder them in their sleep [kidding]. Anyway, my anger went away when I finally realized I DID need help, and most importantly, that this person in front of me could get it for me, if I let her. Looking back, it's noticeable how much better I am now. Sometimes parents just don't get it. Sometimes they don't WANT to get it. It's never because they don't love you though, and there will unfortunately be times when you're all alone. I keep so many things from my mom, and sometimes I wish she'd look me back in the eyes and really see how miserable I am. I'm pretty sure everyone does, but sometimes we need to look out for ourselves. You know you need help, and now it's up to you to find it. Best of luck & <3's.
Of course you should say something! Not many people are willing to admit they need help, much less take the first step. Tell your father "Dad, I know you tried to help me last time you saw I was in trouble, and thanks for that. But somehow, I fell back into it again and I really need your help this time, even though I may not seem like it." They're parents, they'll understand. I don't think he hasn't gotten you help because he's ignoring you, he probably thinks you've actually improved since he sees no signs of cutting. What about your mom? Can you go to her? Hope this helps, and good luck <3.
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Yes you do need to get help, as the problem is increasing, maybe if you show you dad the cuts he'll realize the cuts are worse and see you really need help.
I know of a song that may you, its call The Last Night by Skillet.
You should listen to it, you'll have a better time changing now, b/c you actually want the help.
Just talkt o your dad.
Best of luck to you, All the best!! :)
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