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A bit of BFF trouble...
Hi--
Well, let's get right to the point. My mom and I are going shopping in August soon for back to school shopping, and I REALLY want my best friend to come. But, there's only one problem. My family doesn't really like her parents... We went shopping a couple years ago together for Halloween, and her mom ended up coming, and the whole time it was a disaster. She was dragging her around the store, she wouldn't let her buy certain things, and in the end they actually ended up doing they're OWN shopping. And, anyways, my mom said she could only come if my best friend's mom DIDN'T. So, now, my best friend called me up awhile ago asking if it was OK if her mom came to pay for her stuff if she couldn't afford some things... and I REALLY don't want her mom to come, because we are going into 8th grade for Chrissake, and I really DON'T want her mom to come, because she won't let us go to certain stores, which is TOTALLY unfair. So, I have no idea what to do. I love my BFF to DEATH, but... I don't know what to say to her! Please help me!
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well... if i were you, i would let her mom come. your mom's coming too right? great. (lol) there could be two ways of solving this problem.
solution 1: have your mom talk to your bff's mom. ask your mom to tell her about your annoyance with her. adults should get along pretty well and chances are, she'll listen to your mom. but that's taking a huge risk of losing her mom's friendship.
solution 2: go shopping alone wiht your bff and have both your moms go to starbucks or something. have them both together and let you guys shop alone. then when it's time to pay for whatever you can't afford, call them and meet up. and again, if her mom disagrees with anything, have your mom talk to her. that way, she wont be mad at you and you'll still have your bff. let your mom do the talking. im pretty sure she'll want to.
hope at least one of these ideas work. i did the best i can. tell me what happened as your feedback ok? i really wanna know.
good luck
lori 16/f (sry its so long)
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Hmmm, this sounds difficult.
I think the best you could so is explain to your best friend.
I know it's her mom, but tell her that her mom is restricting both of you from having a good time.
It's better if you tell her, rather than making excuses.
Tell her in a calm and mature way, and she should understand, after all, she is your best friend, right? :)
Ask her maybe she could talk to her mom about it, see if her mom would give her some extra money to take with her, if she's planning to buy something expensive.
This is a hard situation, since I know that you don't want to hurt your friend's feeling, but you nor your mom want your best friend's mom to come with.
Or if her mom does come, you could maybe ask both of your moms that you two (your and your bff) go shopping together, and then you meet them(your parents) in an hour and a half.
That way you two can have fun, without your or her mom being around, and if she finds something that she can't afford, she can take her mom to it afterwards.
(I hope that made sense to you)
But first of all, ask your friend to talk to her mom about this.
Maybe her mom doesn't realize what she's doing wrong.
Hope this helped :)
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