|
she was like a sister!!
okay i was friends with this girl for like fiv and a half years and then on the nite of her nineteenth she invited me and her other mates who i didnt no but no each other out and over the course of the night i got growled at, pushed out of the group when dancing, they even thought that id slapped ma friend when all id did was tapped her face as we do as a joke all the time and she did not help when she acted shoked!! u c the thing is for a while weve bn drifting she found out my mum was on drugs and cause it was her that told her and nt me she was po'd but you c the reason i didnt tell her was because i new wed drift and we did she stopped confiding in me and we had an arguement when after she promised shed go on holiday with me she canceled so she could go with the other girls who came to the party!! sorry its long but my question is how do i forget about her as i miss our friendship but because of whats happened i cant forgive her!!
any help appreciated
xxxxxxxxxxx
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Your main question was “how do I forget about her as I miss our friendship?’ The answer to that is… you cant. You should remember the good times you had. You should remember the bad times that may actually have held some sort of lesson.
We cannot “forget” people in our lives just because we have a quarrel and want them “out of our life”. Human emotions were never meant to work that way. The best we can hope for is the time we spent with the person we are no longer involved with can be spent doing new or different activities. For example, if you always went out with this girl to the movies on Friday nights, you need to find a new activity on Friday nights to focus your attention on something else at that time. You will eventually get into a new routine and it will get easier.
I want to share something with you that I read years ago but never forgot.
“A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or
a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you
will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is
usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have
come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you
with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason
you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong-doing on your part, or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our
desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you
sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount
of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things
you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the
person, and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life. It is said
that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Author Unknown”
I want to address one other thing. You said “because of what has happened I can’t forgive her”. That is not healthy. If you hold a grudge against her forever, you are actually just causing yourself emotional pain and anguish. You should work to be the bigger, better person. Realize that she has possibly done something to you that hurts you a great deal, but if you can never let it go, you are forcing yourself to deal with misery for a very long time. Try to get to where you can pass her on the street, smile, say hi/how are you, and then keep going. You will BE a better person for it and you will FEEL better as well.
Who knows. You may find someday you can have a relationship with her again once all the anger has cooled off.
Best of luck.
]
well. i deffiently wouldn't forgive her, but just give her the silent treatment. if she still ignores you and doesn't talk to you, you know you two aren't going to be friends anymore. try hanging out or talking to new/different people, and try keeping yourself busy so your mind is off of her.
that should work, if it doesn't and you still want to become friends with her again, just try talking to her about everything that happened.
]
More Questions: |