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confused and lost
okay so ive had a terrible relationship for the past year as it is. and when you think it cant get much worse, it does. So my boyfriend started talking to some girl to get me jealous (as he says) because we broke up and he wanted to show me that we cant keep breaking up. so we got back together and he said hed stop talking to her. so than i believe him when ever he told me he stopped talking her. ( i wasnt friends with the girl either) he told me he was going to take me to a phillies game. Than tells me he as to work so the last mintue he cancells on me. Some girl that went told me he saw him there, but when i asked he told me he wasnt. So i let that go. Than mdw came and i wasnt with him cause of softball. After that the same girl he was talking to when we broke up came to me and told me that hes been cheating on me with her and that he had sex with her mdw. Of course he said it wasnt true and the girl was mad cause he stopped talking to her for me. than i heard another rumor that some girl walked in on him and some girl mdw having sex when she was staying at this house ( but with a different girl) the girl who said it didnt want to get invovled and really would have no reason to lie, she didnt even know he had a gf or who i was. He keeps telling me none of its true and that he'll call the girls and flip out. He wrote me 28347234 page letters and what not telling me how much he loves me and never cheated on me. He even has his friends calling me telling me nothing happened and their all lieing. and honestly i dont know what to believe. i would like to think none of its true, but why would someone say they saw him at the phillies game, or a girl come to me and say they did stuff, or another girl say she walked in on him. i heard of rumors, but 3 in the a row? i was just looking for other peoples thoughts about my problem. I would really love to hear what other people had to say about it. thank you!
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The truth is you can't usually trust rumors, but three rumors from three different people about three different girls? You kinda have to start wondering if there is something going on, you can't believe his guy friends, they WILL lie for one another and guys lie too. It really comes down to whether or not you trust the guy, truthfully I think he sounds like kind of a jerk, for one: he started talking to a girl to make you jealous after you broke up.
two: you said that you guys had a terrible relationship, he doesn't really sound like he is a very good guy.
three: you don't seem like you want to believe him and if your gut is telling you that he is lying then girl I say believe it.
It really comes down to if you think you can trust him and if you want to risk getting hurt on him. If you don't then I say tell him to hit the road and fine someone worth your time that will be good to you and that you won't have to worry about cheating on you.
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Poor guy. You won't believe him and all these other people have it out for him. He sounds like a really great guy and totally trust worthy. He even went out of his way to hang out with another girl just to prove his love to you. What a guy, what a saint! Okay...hopefully you got the sarcasm. Why do women hold onto a fantasy and buy into bull that they know does not make any kind of sense? Fear. You think that if there is just the tiniest possibility in the universe that this guy really is just a victim of rumors and coincidence, that you won't lose him. Women are so loyal to an ideal, that we can totally lose our grip on reality. Here is a brand new idea. You are totally capable of seeing what is right in front of your nose. You are not paranoid. You are not emotional. You sound very logical to me and are not trying to get out of this relationship by blowing something out of proportion. You know that he has been manipulating you, but some guys...including this one, will lie to you until the bitter end, even with a hand caught in the cookie jar. One year has been wasted giving him chances to prove himself, and he has over and over and over...now you need to accept that and move on without him. Don't wait for a total confession. Trust the facts and your own gut.
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If i where in your situation,i probably have done lost trust in him. All of these girls really dont have a reason to say all these things about him (except 4 that one girl). I myself kind of believe that he is cheating on you =( I think you need to look deep into your heart basically, to figure out what you and who you REALLY believe. But i hope my opinion and/or my advice helps you because you deserve a trusting relationship!!!!! BEST OF LUCK!!!!! =)
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