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Embarrassing problem :(
Right, I have slept with about 9 girls, and never had any complaints or problems, most of them were one offs or short term relationships, at the moment i'm with a girl who I want a long term relationship with and I love her so much, we are both 17 and she is a virgin, we have been together 2 months and she was ready to have sex, I get an erection all the time with her and she has tossed me off and ive licked her out, but when we go to have sex, ill put the condom on and itll take a few seconds to lose my erection, i just cant keep it up even if she rubs it, it wont get hard enough to go in. Please help me I dont know what to do and its really embarrassing.
Thanks
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do you have anxiety problems? that can cause this kind of problem as well as not being able to last long. my boyfriend had problems with that. it didnt take him that long until he was completely comfortable with me. just make sure you relax. don't worry about things. it may also help if you express your feelings to your girlfriend, i know she'll let you know that it's alright, that will help ease anxiety.
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Well, there are a few sources of pressure for you. One is that you're not used to having sex within long-term relationships. This could mean that part of you is wondering how this will affect the relationship - either positively or negatively.
The fact that your girlfriend is a virgin might also be causing some pressure. After all, there is a lot more significance in taking the virginity of a girl you want to be with for awhile compared with a one night stand.
These sorts of stresses can affect a guy's ability to get or maintain an erection. Other things that could influence are a change in medication, alcohol, being very tired, etc. If you've used condoms before and have not had a problem, they are unlikely to be the issue.
Have you talked to your girlfriend about the situation? Maybe airing out some of your hopes and expectations could get you both on the same page, and make things a little more relaxed for the both of you.
I wish you the best.
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the condom may be too tight and interfere with the blood flow. try a larger sized condom
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