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fingering..
i got fingered by my loving boyfriend and we both had total consent but i feel guilty and so does he a slight bit, but we both loved it. what do i do to feel better and im feel more guilty than he does.
but what can he do also ?
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You could be feelign guilty about several different things.
1. Are either of you involved with another person?
2. Is this the first time either or you have gottent his far, sexually?
3. Is he the only one doing the pleasuring?
The list can go on and on. If you're feeling guilty, something must be wrong. You and your boyfriend should probably talk about it and see where the problem is.
From the sounds of it, you two shouldn't be feeling guilty at all. You're both growing up, and this can be a big step for you two. Take the time the ajust to things before you so any farther.
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Ask yourselves what is the real reason I/we feel guilty? There really is nothing to be ashamed about here. What you were doing is normal and as you know a form of masturbation. It's better to be doing this rather than having sex which could get you an STD or pregnant.
I would talk to him about it and how you both feel and the reasons why. There's nothing dirty, immoral or against God, Christianity etc here. If that's why you feel guilty you have to know that this doesn't lessen your beliefs or bond with God etc. etc. You won't face eternal damnation either. Relax, and if you both enjoy it continue doing so.
As long as you talk about it with him and deal with your mutual guilt and work things out that way nobody will feel bad in the end or uncomfortable. Reassure your partner and yourself that you aren't doing anything wrong.
When you think of the stats that 90% of males masturbate and 70-75% of females you'll see that this is normal activity (fingering) you're engaging in. It's pretty much a common activity that a lot of people you socialize probably do but wouldn't admit. It's all fine if you do, fine if you don't enjoy this with your partner. No reason to be guilty really.
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Well, it depends why you feel guilty I guess, if it's because of religion or something you can always ask for forgivness....If it's not than you just have to learn to forgive yourself, and tell yourself that it was ok and nothing is going to happen because of it. It is enjoyable but if the enjoyment only last during then it is probally a sign that you are not ready to take your relationship to this level, and keep working together to build a stronger relationship, but if you have guilt than there is no reason to continue doing this because the more you do it the more guilty you will feel.
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He can stop fingering you. You guys can do other appropriate things like see a movie or go out to dinner.
-Laura. (16-f)
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