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Kiss
14/F/UK
So i have an amazing boyfriend who i'd never dump. He's out side of my school (goes to a different one) and we see eachother over weekends. We've been going out now for about a month.
We've hugged and kissed (like a peck on the lips) and now i think he wants to go further like a pull (snog) kinda thing (fair enough).
I was just wondering whether there were any tips that people had for me? One of my friends said that there's some sort of way that your tongue has to go? like girls go clockwise or something? I wasn't sure so is it true?
Please, ny thing will do. It's not my first but i've not done it in about 3 years. :S Any fo your tips will do, anything at all.
Thank you. :) x
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Keep your lips moist just before, or you can lick your lips quickly. Then just tilt in the opposite direction to the guy, lean in a little and close your eyes. Your lips will touch his, then part your lips for a peck, THEN start with the french kissing. I suggest that way, with the peck first, as it is like a warning as to what will happen after, which is usually the frenching.
And by the way, kissing is like riding a bike, you can't really forget how to, you just need to do it! SO just take a deep breath, don't forget to breathe and, go with he flow. There is no right or wrong way with the tongues, you usually go clockwse then anit, or whatever! Don't make it too thought-out, it should be spontaneous and genuine!
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Keep in mind that you're only 14. Generally, teenagers get confused when it comes to serious relationships. Being 14 as well my suggestion to you is: Try not to take this too far or else you'll end up causing problems that you will regret for life. As for french kissing, ha I dunno.
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Just go with the flow! x]
But whatever you do, keep it as clean as possible! Super wet kisses are not sexy.
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Just go for it. If you guys love eachother than it doesn't matter how you kiss him. Once you do it you'll get better at it. And you guys can practice along the way.
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I know this sounds really lame, and I'm sure it is ;]
But just go with the flow. I don't really have experience in how to "properly" kiss, nor do I have experience with kissing at all! Can you say prude? ;]
Anyway- if it's your boyfriend/girlfriend- just be honest with him/her. Tell them you're nervous and you don't really know what you're doing. Apparently the people who are less-experienced is a big turn-on to some people.
Do what you feel comfortable with. If something feels awkward or uncomfortable, don't do it. If it feels right, ask the person if they are okay with that, and if they are- then you'll be fine.
There really isn't a CORRECT way to do it. Everyone does what they are comfortable with.
From my weak experience- this is what I can tell you:
1. Don't come on strong- it's really awkward for the other person.
2. Don't slobber all over the other person.
3. Don't stick your tongue all the way down their throat.
My friend on here, Laura, answered a question similar to this, and she gave a great answer. I will copy her answer, but know that credit goes to her.
www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542699
Honestly, you could read a book about it, and you'd probably forget everything once you went in for the kiss.
Explore. Do what feels right. Make it fun, playful, romantic, whatever you want it to be. Don't make it all about jamming your tongue down his throat, and try not to drool all over him, because it's generally less than desireable to do so.
If you come off as confident it'll be a lot more fun. If all evening you're thinking "Oh my gosh, this is going to be bad" you won't enjoy yourself. Follow his lead at first, if you're truly that nervous.
And really, it's almost impossible to find a truly bad kisser. If anything, they might do something you're not used to; give it a chance before you hate it. Who knows, he might be thinking the same thing right now about you!
Over time, you'll develop your own personal style of kissing/making out, and that's not a bad thing. Do whatever feels good/right to you, and gets a positive reaction. For example, some people love a gentle, or less than gentle, bite of the lip, "necking", and other techniques. Like I already said, experiment & make it fun!
From personal experience I'd advise that you brush your teeth and floss, and have some mild mints with you, like TicTacs. Fruity is usually good, and less overpowering. If you're at a party, don't worry too much about what you're eating if you're both eating the same things, but a huge plate of hummus & extra garlic is a bad choice right before kissing =P. That's where mints come in handy for both of you. Casually offer him one if he's been gorging on something stinky.
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--Jack
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