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getting over my ex bf
16/f this boy and i went out for 1 yr 4 mo. I was really in love with him. Some things drove me crazy about him, truly, but I was sure I was going to be with him forever, or close to it.
Last weekend he broke up with me. It was unexpected on my side but apparently he had been "done" for awhile. For the past week things have been very amicable between us. We've talked almost every night. We still called each other our pet names like baby and darling. We still told each other we loved each other.
Until today, when his brother convinced him that that's not good for a just friends relationship (in fact, my other good guy friend and I tell each other we love each other all the time.) So he won't say it to me anymore. He said, "I wish you would stop thinking we're still together." Sadly I think he's true. We got off the phone without saying "I love you," and now he's online apologizing (we fought a bit earlier,) but it doesn't help the fact that I'm still deeply in love with him and I'm trying to deny it to make myself feel better.
I need ideas of things I can do to put my mind at ease. I want to tell him that I love him so badly still, but I won't now because it will hurt our friendship. I need ideas for closure.
Thanks.
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well ive been in this situation, but we ended up getting back together.
it depends. if you want to get back together, invite him over to really just talk about everything, and see where that goes, bc when me and my bf did that, we ended up kissing, and we thought it was going to be a last time thing but it brought us closer and we started talking more. so invite him over and see where that goes. talk outside on your driveway or something so he doesnt feel so awkward in your house. tell him how much you really did love him and how you will always love him. tell him that youll always be there for him. if you start to cry, then like put your head down and then hed probably hug you and then just kiss him on the cheek when you hug. if he asks, just say you wanted to kiss hiim one last time. dont deny anythng to your self, because that will make it harder on you.
if you want to just move on, try to find someone else, not as a rebound though, but as someone who you just might like. you will really move on quickly. that happened to me. but i screwed the guy over because i was still in love with the other guy, BUT DONT DO THAT !!!
i really hopes this helps you, because love is a very difficult thing to deal with when you've lost someone you love. if you get back together, its meant to be. and just remember that everything happens for a reason.
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Break-ups suck and they are one of the most painful things that any person young or old can go through. Especially, like in your situation, if you weren't ready for the relationship to end.
You shouldn't deny the fact that you love him still, you can't just stop loving someone that quick. You just have to deal with it. Just because you broke up doesn't mean you can't be friends thats true, but sometimes being friends makes it harder for you to let go of him. Being around him may give you closure, but if you find yourself wanting him more and more instead of less and less, then maybe you need some time away from each other. Talk to him in small amounts, try not to hang out with him, hang out with your friends, get a hobby, talk about. Talking helps more than anything. It is going to take a while, but sooner or later you will learn that you can live without him. You'll find out that he isn't worth losing your mind over, things will be okay.
Hope I Helped.
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i am in a situation exactly like this. just because you broke up doesn't mean you can't talk, but i would cut back on the phone converstations a little bit and give it some time. also i really helps just to go out with friends have fun, new guys. just try your best to move on. and the number 1 rule is do not give in. it hurts at first but it's probably better off to just go your separate ways. so don't give in.
i hope i helped =]
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Get closure by closing the door on this friendship. At least for a while.
Although it's a nice thought that you can be strong enough and mature enough to stay friends, it would be a greater show of strength and maturity to admit to yourself that you aren't managing to be friends and that the current situation is screwing with your head.
Tell him whatever you want to about your feelings THEN tell him because of those feelings, you need some distance from him and are going to stop talking to him for a while.
Then stop. Stop talking on the phone, stop the online, be only polite to him at school.
Relationships are hard habits to break, but if you don't break them when the relationship is over you can only hurt yourself.
Closure isn't something you can find in your past failed relationship, it's something you find in your future life. In order to start looking for it, you have to let the past go.
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