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My Family and My Privacy
15/f
Everybody has their own privacy limits.
My mom and my dad both sneak on my computer and look at what i do!
So does my brother.
My youtube account has this really big love speach and i poured my heart out in it. I like to keep myself annoymous and i dont like anyone to know who i am. My parents looked at my whole youtube account and theyre always asking me if they an use my computer.
I have no problem with that, but its not like i do anything bad.
Its just like your parents looking at your diary you know?
It feels really uncomfortable.
I have a boyfriend named dannis (well call him that for now)
They dont allow me to have a boyfriend (which brings me to my next subject)
I dont see what the big deal in having a boyfriend is, i really dont. We love eachother, and there is nothing wrong with that.
And trust me, before i start a relationship i make sure we are both ready.
I am also a good girl, i dont do anything stupid, and i pick the right guys.
And my parents know it.
They invade my privacy BEYOND REASON.
I understand some small things, but this is going way WAY too far.
They asked to check their email and i come in and their looking at my youtube account??!
Not only did they lie, but they are invading my pricacy.
I feel so hurt and betrayed.
I hate lying to my parents and thats what i had to do.
Otherwise, they wont let me see my boyfriend anymore.
Love really REALLY hurts.
I dont want oppinions, or facts.
I need advice.
Please.
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Wow this sounds firmiliar. Sits your parents down. Ask them, "Do I give you any reason to not trust me? Do I ever really get into any kind of trouble?" Once you do that, just explain everything to them. Tell them that you're 15 and deserve a little privacy. If your not doing anything suspicious then what's the need to check up on you all the time. As for the boyfriend thing goes, try talkin to them about letting you have on, but don't tell them you already have one, cause that'll make things so much worse. As for your brother going through your stuff, tell your parents that is rediculous and there's no reason for him to be anywhere near your business... hopes this helps.
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girl i know exacly what you are talking about my mother did the samething to me she would read my e-mails my diary my text messages and every thing this lady was so crazy that she went through my phone bill and asked me who every body was..... but any way one day i sat her down and had a talk with her. i told her exacly how i felt and every thing. i asked her. how would she feel if she was my age and her mother was going through her things. just talk to them and really express how you feel. whats the worst that can happen??? just stay calm and handle it and a mature way. dont get smart or loud because that wont change anything.
hope every thing works out
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You have every right to feel the way you do. They are stepping way over their boundaries. As for the account they keep invading, save everything you said or have on it. Then close this one and open another using a different name. Something that would throw off your parents. Also when you are exiting your own account make sure you log out so they can't get into it right after you entered into it. The truth is, with parents like yours, they will never change. I know it is hard to lie to them about your boyfriend but you have to have a life of your own, a life they are not invading. Love is definitely a complicated situation but thats all the more reason to live a life with someone to love.
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