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rape?
okay so I like this guy I'm 15/f and ill be 16 in october he just turned 20 june and I realllyy like him I'm pretty sure he likes me but I'm not positive but we have been talking a lot lately and I have sent him pictures of me but I'm fully clothed. we have talked about doing stuff and we are going to hangout. I am a virgin and I want to loose it to him I'm pretty sure he will take it. anyway is that considered statitory rape if I'm 16? I really like him and he likes me he said he wouldn't date me until I'm 18 because he cares about me and we don't want to get introuble I want to be withhim bad but do you also think he's using me? thank you for reading and thank you for responding
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It depends on where you live. I'm from Michigan and here the age of consent is 16, so when you turned 16 it wouldn't be rape anymore. Google the age of consent wherever you live and I strongly suggest waiting until youre that old. Because if your parents found out and pressed charges he can get in a LOT of trouble.
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Dear heart,
I promise you that I understand what you are feeling, even to the extent of what you want to do. I am not sure of the state you are in, but yes in most states it is considered as statutory rape, seriously.
I know you want to lose your virginity to him, but please think about this: if you are questioning if he could be using you or not, why would you want to give him something so precious? Being a virgin at your age, is great and shouldn't be given to someone whom you have so many questions about. You are questioning the age factor, if he is using you, as well as if he likes you (you are saying you are pretty sure, that he likes you but you aren't positive). Sex is to be done with love is a factor, not possible like. Hey, read what you wrote: at first you said you're not positive that he likes you- then you say, you really like him and he likes you and that he cares for you.
Do me a favor and most importantly do yourself a favor: Ask him to wait. Tell him that you aren't ready yet and that there are some things that you must find out about yourself before you lose your virginity. Upon doing this, talk to your parents about him, and his age. Do they know about him? Do they know his age? It is really only a 4 year difference, and I DON'T see that as a huge age difference, however when sexual activity becomes involved, it changes my views from a legal stand point & from a parent view.
If your parent's are willing to accept your involvement with a 20 year old (which if you were my daughter, I wouldn't accept it for the fact that I KNOW sex would become an issue) but I would at least allow him to come over with me there. I would let them talk on the phone, and as years go by once she's 17 or 18, I guess I would have to accept it if he made her happy and invested time into getting to know her and allowing her to get to know him. You feel me?
I am pretty sure he will take it too, he's a guy, hell a man and you're a virgin. Not only that you're younger than he is and still a teenager.
Do some research - call up an attorney in your state, don't give your name or his name - and ask them the ages that statutory rape is considered valid.
Good luck, be careful and think really hard, do some soul searching dear, once you do that, please try to make sound judgment that is beneficial to your life and future.
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for what ever reason dont have sex with this guy...its an online relationship and 99 percent of those kind of relationships are of guys looking for young girls to have sex with.....sorry to say this but he is using you....just wait for mister right and let things go normally on its own....you never need to rush things....
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If this is only an online thing, he is using you. Predators aren't blatantly weirdos; they reel people in by gaining their trust first. It's really important not to do anything sexual (let alone meet the guy). You really can't trust anyone unless you get a sense of who they are in person- and I wouldn't risk seeing this guy in person (unless you have other people with you).
Frankly, at your age, this is wrong. You may have feelings for him, but it won't be worth it.
Please cut off your relations and focus on guys who are more your age.
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sadly, he's definitely using you. i know you don't want to hear that, but it's the truth.
and by the way, if you've NEVER met this guy, and it's an internet relationship, DO NOT, under any circumstances, meet him. he'll turn out to be 40 and looking for teen girls looking to have sex.
don't they stress that enough in high school? i know they do at mine. . .
please, don't do it. it's a VERY bad idea waiting to happen.
~collin
p.s. if you think you won't get attached, you're wrong. when women have sex, their bodies release a hormone called oxycotin that makes them feel more attached to that person. no kidding. that's science (and chastity class. . damn you catholic school. . ).
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To answer your first question depending on the state you live in it wouldnt be rape.
But hun my heart goes out to you.
Please dont have sex with him.
He's using you.
I know you dont want to hear this.
I know you want to believe that he really cares about you and likes you alot but thats not true.
Wanna know how I know?
Well because last year at the end of school I met this guy and he had just graduated. I was 14.
We exchanged numbers and started talking.
Then one night he was like we should hangout and me being young and stupid agreed.
From then on until 6/13/07 we hungout and talked.
Then on 6/13 we had sex.
we continued to have sex until 10/30/07
Then his bi polarness came out and he got really mad and screamed at me the next day.
From then on we stopped talking and now recently we kinda randomly talk.
&& since I had sex with him I have lots of feelings for him.
I still want to be with him.
I never thought I would be like this last year; I told myself I wouldnt be attached.
But you really do become attached..
Im sorry sweetie.
But please talk my advice and save your heart.
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sorry hun,anyone whose 20 is with someone whose 15 is definitally looking for sex only.Have you ever met him in person?If this is an internet relationship stay away.
xo southern
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I don't think he's using you, I know he's using you.
And if he isn't, what kind of freak would be interested in a 15 year old when they're 20 goddamn years old?
Stay away from him; no matter what he says, he's only looking for some ass.
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