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Help!!!! My best friend just told me he liked me!
What do I do???
A few years back I had the same situation happen with another one of my friends..See the thing is though I didn't like him more than a friend...Ever since he told me he loved me that friendship has never been the same...Well now its happening again...Another friend of mine just told me he liked me more than a friend...Thing is I don't like him more than a friend plus I have a boyfriend...I don't want to mess up the friendship but What can I do???
Please Help!
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I have the same thing. Understand that it probably will be awkward. Your friend decided to make it awkward when he admitted his feelings for you despite the fact that you already have a boyfriend. My best advice is to explain to him in the kindest way you're capable of that you already have a boyfriend and you aren't considering a new relationship. To lighten the rejection, you could toss in that you don't plan on a new relationship at least until your current one is over, this way he feels he has a glimmer of hope. As for how to act around him, try and act like things are mostly the same. Do NOT give him any sort of special treatment or puppy act just to make him feel better about you rejecting him. Act as if nothing happened in hopes that things with go back to how they used to be. Treating him differently will just bring light to how you see him differently now that he has told you how he feels. Best of luck.
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Yes, tell him that you don't see as anything more than a friend because you are involved in a relationship that he is aware of. Let him know that you appreciate his honesty, and his courage of being real with you. Now, let him know that you don't appreciate the fact of him approaching you when he knows you have someone that you are seeing now, and that you feel as if he has put you in an awkward situation, of worrying about the friendship you two have. Let him know that you still want to be friends with him but ask that he not approach you while you have a boyfriend.
just to make sure he doesn't do it again. It also lets him know that you are vibing the relationship that you are in and that you respect it and expect him to also respect it if he wishes to be friends with you. It also lets him know that you aren't mad at him and that he shouldn't be embarrassed for telling you or your response to it. most importantly it lets him know that you value your friendship with him, and maybe this won't mess your friendship up with him.
Good luck girl!
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the first thing that you should do is tell him how you feel about him..tell him that you dont see him more than just a friend and that you want your friendship to be the same as it used to be....let him now that you care about your boyfriend and that the only thing that can be between you and him es a really nice friendship....
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Oh this is always fun. No I'm just kidding. I just had this happen to me, except add the fact how a few years back I was the one who liked him a lot and he only thought of me as his best friend. And then, this year, he told me he liked me. I told him I needed some time to think on it. And then a few days later, after some serious thought of what to say, I told him how he was my best friend, which made the whole thing harder to do. And that the way I see it, our friendship wasn't work risking for a few months (hey maybe years, but not forever) years of happiness, and that I couldn't picture my life without him, so I wouldn't change a thing. I guess it also depends on the type of guy he is, and how you act. Because you said how in that last experience with the friend liking you, the friendship had never been the same. Also, point out the fact you have your own boy, and are happy with him.
Hope I helped, and message me if you have anymore questions.
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