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I saw something good/bad? and now I'm confused
I'm 17f. Last weekend I was sleeping over my best friend's house. We're really close and she knows everything about me. But since we're both religious Jews and our families are too, we're very modest. We never change in front of one another or anything like that. One of us goes to the bathroom and other changes in the bedroom. Anyway, On Saturday I woke up at like 7;30 because I heard a noise. I looked around and saw my friend in her hed. She was on top of the blankets and her p.j. pants and panties were off. She was playing with herself. She must have thought I wouldn't wake up. Anyway I didn't move at all, and sort of squitned so it would look like my eyes were closed but really I could see her. Since her beds are in a L shape design, I saw everything.
I was never sure if she did that, but since I know I do, I figured she must do it too. But it's not something we would EVER discuss. Now I kinda feel guilty for watching her, but at the same time I'm kind of interested in talking to her about it since I don't have anyone I can talk to about that stuff. But I'm afraid she'll be totally embarassed and I might lose my best friend. At the same time, I'm scared because seeing her like that . . .get me VERY turned on. I keep thinking about how she looked and then I have to relieve myself. What do I do? How do I start a conversation about it? Remember in our religious community, sex is NOT and I repeat NOT ever talked about except before marriage.
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i believe she wanted you to see what she was doing or else she wouldnt have done it right in front of you. you should just confront her about it just be like that one night i slept over your house i had woken up and seen you doing that. and let her no you do it to so she isnt embarssed. i dont think you will lose a friend over it.
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she wanted you to see it or she would've done it in the bathroom or under the covers - completely opposite of NOT changing in front of you, right?
She also made noises to make sure you noticed her. You feel guilty from watching her because of a previous incident involving you changing clothes (I can see previous questions asked). Since you feel guilty, apologize to her for watching her, next ask her reason of doing it while you were in there and why noises were made. I think you will be surprised at the answer you get. She may be curious about you too. If you guys are as close as you say you are, then you two can talk about whatever.
In your religious community, much is sheltered, hidden, covered or not acknowleged. This is not the 1940's any more so, with that being said religion is important but it is also important to remember that you are also still human and without sex no one would be here on earth, right? OK THEN.
So, without telling her that you got turned on which is understandable regardless of sexual preferences - wait and let the conversation go as it will, pay attention to the details of the conversation and take it from there. 2Questions to you: why did you post the question again?
What are you confused about?
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well don't tell her you saw that. in fact try to forget it about it. You are righ it would be super embarassing fo rher to hear that and especially since you saw it.
but you can still talk about those kinds of things. just start by a little question about something and move on from there. See how she acts and if she wants to talk then go ahead. but remember that what you saw wasn't really something you should have seen so mentioning would not be the best idea.
best of luck.
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