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misunderstood
i have always been known as the school slut. but the truth is... ive only kissed two guys, and i had real feelings for both of them. its because i have a very flirty personality... but i am NOT slutty.
how can i get people to stop thinking of me this way...? please dont tell me to tone down my fliring because it is who i am. and i cant
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Reputations go with you for as long as people bring them on. You can't change them, and you can't change so peoples minds will. If it's a rumor, and the whole school thinks it, you can't walk up to every person in the school and tell them that your not a slut. You might just have to role with it until it ends.
I wish you the best of luck, hun! :]
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I am going to guess that people are jealous of you. You get the attention of guys by flirting with them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Unfortunately your 'reputation' will be with you for a while, that's just how it is. High school is tough(or adolescence anyway,) but it is not going to be that way forever. I know it seems like everything now, but you will soon realize that being called a slut is not the worst thing in the world. Teenagers are judgmental and catty. They will find anything to gab about. If you were the first to develop, you would be a 'slut' also. As long as you and your friends know that you area good girl, forget about everyone else. Be who you are and remember that these people who think of you as a slut are just as insecure as you are. Everyone at your age is.
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you shouldn't care what people think of you. maybe if your dress that way than tone that down a little but be your self and if people dont like you for that then dont accoicate them with in your life. i am assuming you are in school. those kids will grow up to relize how wrong they were i have been throw all of that. and it sucks it just takes time getting used to the drama.
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If you aren't willing to make any changes to your personality, ways, thoughts or actions then you have no concern or care of being considered as a slut so why even ask the question? seriously. I am not being smart with you but asking you for the opportunity to talk to your mind a little bit. I have never been considered a slut, but I was considered as other things which caused me to look at who I was or what it was that I was doing to be classified or judged and I realized something, they were right and I needed to start caring more about who I was and what I needed to focus on within self in order to first love myself. Once I did that and became happy with myself I didn't care what who thought of me - get to this point for those reasons and then you're onto something sista.
Do you love yourself? Do you like being considered as a slut? If not, and you INTERNALLY feel that you need to change something then change it. If you don't care about what you do, or how you are viewed then change nothing as you have already said you weren't. I wouldn't care much about what people thought of me, but I would care of the reason behind the thought then is when it becomes internalized to measurement of self.
People are judgemental, they are going to think whatever they want to think about you and everyone else, it's usually formed from perception. The image given. The way a person carries themselves. There is a reason you have ALWAYS been KNOWN, not thought of as the school slut. (you said this yourself), now ask yourself why? you say you flirt, so this means that you may make people think you are out there like that, getting down and doing more than kissing, if you don't like the perception, why would you keep casting it off to be like that. Be real and true to who you are. If you are not a slut, do not act like one, dress like one or carry yourself like one. If you do slutty things but don't want to get called out for it, then there is nothing you can do but accept it- again, because you aren't willing to stop doing what you do because you have said that this is who you are.
You have control over your ways, image, respect given or not given, and control over the things you do or not do in your life. I hope you are more loving and considerate of yourself. Being considered as the school slut is a hurtful thing and is NOTHING to be proud or boastful of. I encourage you to do some soul searching and make some changes for yourself without input from school mates, words, opinions or comments. OK?
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