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caged to the house
Ever since we moved closer to my family in Indiana my mom never lets me see them. I went this weeked to see them for the first time in like 3 months. I only get to see my dad like two days every 3 months. She won't let me go see him ever. he had to argue with her just to let me stay father's day with him. I have to go straight home after that. She says i have to work...I don't even had a job! She has nothing against my dad i used to stay with him for months at a time before and noiw i barley see him at all. What can i do i feel caged. She does that with my friends to and she now she does it because i've talked to her about it. She just won't let me do anything because she wants me at home with her. What can i do.
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I assume that this issue with your mother most likely has to do with your age. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm sure there have been quite a few years passed since you were "staying months" with your dad. As a child grows older, many parents have different ways of handling it. Some parents embrace the years and let nothing change, however some parents try to hold on to everything they've had (including time with you) in fear that they may soon lose it. As you become older I see that your mother is just experiencing stress due to the fact that you're getting older as is she and that she doesnt have alot of time with you. Just try to tell her you love her as much as possible. Other than that there is not much more that you can do besides talking to her & explaining that you would like to see your dad more often.
You could even suggest that she per chance take a trip with you to see your dad (If she really wants to be that protective).
Just love that you have a mother that loves you so much and have fun with what you have. =]
With Love,
Kori
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the person below is right but here is the advice I give you.. Just make sure she feels secure in your relationship with her.. ask her to do things and if you have a close enough relationship just ask her whats up? why she is not letting you see your own dad. Tell her, "Mom, I love you and no one is gonna replace you or make you forget me but a girl needs her dad too!" But you may not even have to take it to that level if she doesnt feel like she is going to lose you =]!
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Maybe you mom is afraid of losing you. Does anyone else live with the 2 of you? She might be lonely and afraid that you will like being at your dads more, and will want to live there again. Or afraid that your friends will take up all of your free time and then where does that leave her? She should let you do more, and shouldn't shelter you to the outside world. I don't really know what to tell you to do about it, but you can always keep try talking to her and let her know how you really feel. good-luck
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