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Self-defense class w/ a partner..
Okay, I wasn't sure what category to put this in, so I'm sorry about that.
But alright. This is a weird situation. I'm 16 years old and I'm a girl. I just started self defense classes (sorta like karate..but more physical and stuff..) and I have to have a girl as my partner. She's the same age as me. There are a lot of moves where you have to touch each other and lean over eachother and go into these weird positions where your bodies make a lot of contact. And I feel SO FLIPPIN' WEIRD when I'm on top of her! I mean, I don't want to look like I'm staring at her boobs or somewhere inappropriate or touching her in the wrong way cause I just started. I'm just leaning over her..sitting on her...and her boobs are like right there and I don't know where else to look so it looks like I'm all awkward about it! I feel so weird. I used to be really sexually confused and turned on by girls and stuff..now I'm not as much..but the little feelings linger. I know I'm not bisexual though...but this is so weird. I'm scared she'll think I'm a lesbian or something. How can I approach this? It makes me feel so uncomfortable!
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Ok you have to remind yourself that the problem is in your mind only. Just carry out the exercise as instructed and you will be fine. The more you obsess about this, the more you will think you really are touching or looking at her inappropriately.
I used to train that sort of stuff myself some years back, and have had male and female partners. There really shouldnt be any awkwardness, just focus on what it is that you have to be doing. Odds are she wont really be thinking the same as you.
By the way, just for my own personal curiosity, the martial art you are training, is it ju-jitsu?
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i don't blame you... i would most likely feel awkward too. the next time your in class, just make a joke out of it. when your in an awkward position by like whoa this is moving kinda fast... i just met you! just joke around about it to lighten the mood and let her know that you are in no way interested in something more that a self defense partner... but if you really feel that unconfortable talk to the instructor about switvhing partners.
Good luck :)
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