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Why am I always just the Best Friend?
Hi, I am 13/F if it helps:
I have a LOT of guy friends. Maybe even more than girl friends. All of me and my guy friends are really close. How come all of my girl friends get asked out and I don't? I am not ugly or anything, and I am pretty popular at school. How come none of my guy friends have a crush on me or anything?
Guy & Girl advice would be nice. Thanks beforehand!!!
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This is exactly like me, your problem might be like mine...I don't flirt with boys, I become one of them. If you befriend boys then they will never think of you as a "girlfriend" type, you need to flirt. But to be honest with you at 13 i wouldn't worry about it, and keep your lad mates close, i've found that boy mates are sometimes better than girls, girls are bitches.
I dont know if this will help, hope it does
Sarah xx
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Maybe people think if they ask you out then you will still hang around those guys and some guys get really jealous if their girlfriend hangs around other guys. Also, they might think since you hang out with guys you dont want a boyfriend. Hope this helps.
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I'm about the same way...the way I put it is that I'm "every guy's best friend" and I wish I was kidding. I used to have many more guy friends than girl friends, but I noticed that the friendships didn't survive through most of high school or even into the start of college unless they we're gay lol. Once I started dating this guy and we were really comfortable with each other I asked him if he would ever date a girl who was friends with mostly guys...he said no. He said the big reason was because when a girl is friends with a lot of guys many guys think it's because she's really easy and has been with all of them sexually and many guys (especially those without loads of experience) don't want to be compared in her mind.
But I will tell you now...those years that I had all of those guy friends were the best and I wouldn't give them up for anything in this world.
Chances are you won't be friends with them forever...guys don't really have that long lasting friendship that girls do...but stay friends with them while you can because a strong central support group of friends (guys, girls or both) is ten times more important that any one guy...especially during high school (which I'm assuming you'll be in in a couple of years).
Keep the friends you've got now and when a guy comes along (and he will I promise) he'll probably be much more genuine and caring because he'll like you for you and not the friends you have.
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