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my best friend and the guy i like
Ok so my best friend has been through a lot this year. a little while ago i was pretty much her only friend then i got her reaquanted with her old friend that moved away who was also a very good friend of mine. now the friend that moved away,becca, has this brother that i really like. and she knows that and is cool with me likeing her brother. when i introduced the other girl sarah to all of them she started liking the brother. and she knows that i have liked him for a while. then this other guy came in and his name is john. he liked me and i kinda liked him but i still like the brother a lot more.and so i didnt know what i should do about my friend because i didnt want a boy to mess up a great friendship and i really want my friend to be happy. and i kinda thought that she might back off since she knows that i have liked him. so i decided that i will have john and she can have the brother. and now they are about to become a couple. and honestly im really happy for her but it hurts and i havent been around both of them yet and im scared that i might get jealous or that its just really goin to hurt to where i cant hang out with them. i guess the main thing that i feel is that my best friend came in grabed the guy i like and doesnt realize how that makes me feel. and i have helped her through alot of hard times. i have told her how i feel about him and she says that she will back off if i want her to but what friend would acctually tell her friend to back off. ok well if anybody can acctually understand this please help. sorry its confusing
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Heyy, i understand your problem and don't really agree with the other answer you got.
I do think it is really nice of you to let your friend have the brother. It may not be that she doesn't care about your feelings, she may not know that you feel so hurt. It is good that you don't want a relationship to get in the way of your friendship. To prevent this, you have to talk to her. Tell her that she has to be more aware of your feelings.
Now depending on how much you really like this guy, you can either ask them to break up or just let her know what your doing for her. If she doesn't care or back off then she doesn't have her priorities straight and you should tell her friends are more important then guys and she better realize that.
I hope this makes some sense and that i helped. I really hope it works out for you, please lemme know how it goes! =]
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thats messed up what your friend did to you. she knew you liked him and she didnt know it was wrong? how could she stand to be a couple with the "brother" if she knew you actually knew him? well ,the thing is, its not right. you are being such a good friend to this girl and shes not feeling guilty about this at all? if so, this isnt true friend and you shouldnt have done that for her. i dont think she cares. is she was, she wouldve felt guilty and back off becuse she has to know that you were wanting her to bak off. you did that for her, she would not do that for you. she obviously sees love relationships as a more important thing than friendships.
In response to your feedback:
i didnt mean to say that what you did was wrong, i think itsz too nice in fact. i just mean that your friend should actually consider your feelings. i would talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. Im just saying she obviously knows that you are feeling this way, it would be hard to believe it if she didnt. well, u dont have to end the friendship that is not what im saying. you should probably talk to her about this and make sure that she knows how ur feeling. talk it out with her, and i really hope it works out. :) good luck
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