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no ones interested?
okay so i hang out with alot of my friends and whenver i go out with them and we meet guys the guys always like one of them, but its never me. i get alot of compliments from people saying im pretty and i honestly think im pretty, not drop dead gorgeous, but pretty. why isn't anyone interested in me? its just so boring because i wanna be the "hard to get" one but my friends are all over the guys and flirty and stuff, thats not how i am but i still want guys to be interested in me , what do do? :(
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It's just because when you're with them and you're trying to play hard to get, while they're being flirtatious, it makes you seem untouchable. Like maybe they think you're reserved because you have a boyfriend already.
I've had the same problem as you for a long time, but it was because I felt weird flirting with guys while my friends were right there. But I just learned to get over it and flirt a little more. and guys notice me now, too.
So I'm not suggesting you change your personality or anything, but I definately think that to fix this problem it's going to take a little bit of proactivity on your part. Be a little flirtatious at times. Guys are pretty stupid in that, if it doesn't look like you're interested in them, they go for the nearest girl willing to give them the time of day. So flirt! That's my advice, I hope it works out for you. :)
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Sounds like you aren't hanging around the type of places to really meet someone who will appreciate you. I went through this for years. I always managed to meet more guys when I went somewhere that my friends didn't go or when I went to the same places alone. You will find someone and whether he is Mr Right or Mr Right Now he will be interested in you because of something he sees in you and not because you change your personality to be what you think he wants. It doesn't sound as if the guys your friends are meeting are Mr Right either. Sometimes when you're lonely or insecure in yourself you tend to flirt more and get off on the attention because it validates who you think you are. That doesn't mean it's real. Try going somewhere that has something to do with your interests even if you have to go alone. Strike up a conversation with a guy at the grocery store or the park not the club which are usually just meat markets. Stop trying and you will meet someone.
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the thing about playin hard to get is it's a complicated game. guys like attention. apparently your friends give that to them. honestly, this happens to me. if my best friend and i are out and run into guys, there's basically no hope for me bc shes gorgeous AND very out there and flirty. however if i get a guys number and start talkin to a guy via text or myspace or whatever, they tend to start liking me pretty quick [that sounds cocky - not trying to be] and then it's my game from there. the point is, you have to get them interested first. you cant just be "hard to get" right off the bat or they'll see you as not interested. flirt some! be friendly, smile, laugh with them, get their numbers, or suggest yall meet up and hang out. take the initiative. yes guys like a chase, but you have to give them some attention first. dont just put yourself out there and be all over them like a whore, but get their attention, and then be "hard to get" after you've got em hooked =] if you've got a good personality, they WILL be interested in you too. good luck girl !
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Okay this is totally corny but read it!
--------------""Girls--------------
-----------are like apples------
-------on trees. The best ones-----
-----are at the top of the tree.-----
---The boys dont want to reach---
--for the good ones because they--
-r afraid of falling and getting hurt.-
-Instead, they get the rotten apples-
from the ground that arent as good,
but easy. So the apples up top think
something wrong w/ them when in
-reality they're amazing. They just--
---have to wait for the right boy to
---- come along, the one who's-
----------- brave enough to-----
---------------climb all---------
---------------the way--------
--------------to the top--------
-------------of the tree.---------
Anyway~ I had this problem and I didn't know what to do. So I started talking to my friends about it and they gave me some tips. Start flirting with guys even when you dont like them [for practice, DUH!] On text message do the wink face ( ;-) ) and more. It turns them on LOL! Talk alot!!
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